Worry less, stress less

I sound like a broken record – even to myself.

I thought life would slow down a bit after the wedding, but everything is still moving at warp speed 4.5 months later. The new job has been taking up a lot of time and I’m studying like crazy whenever I’m not working. I knew the CPA exam was going to be tough… but wow! No one knows what it’s like unless they have done it, and you never believe how much of your life it consumes until you’re doing it. I’m tired of spending 90% of my free-time studying (not kidding) and the other 10% feeling guilty about not studying.

I actually feel bad for my poor husband and family, I don’t spend nearly as much time with them as I would like to and I think that is adding to my stress level. I just don’t have enough me to spread around.

I am craving the kind of normalcy and routine I had established a few years ago, and I’m hoping I can have that back after a few more months of hard work.

Additionally, they just announced at work today that they are “reducing staff levels” in early 2010 to save costs. We won’t hear anything further for another month or two… but I’m not feeling uber confident. I have been putting in extra hours and trying really hard to get myself out there at work, but I’m still the newest hire. On top of that I’m in a rotational position filling in for people who are working on a project until April’ish – at which point they will want their stuff back.

I know I can’t be sure of anything until I hear more info – but it has certainly added to my stress. My hubby has already been laid off from work for two months, so we can’t afford for me to lose my job. At least the economy is picking up (or so they say) so one/both of us should be able to find something if need be…

I’m just physically and mentally drained, and I need to recharge myself somehow. It helps to get it all down on “paper” even if I do sound like a broken record – so maybe I’ll feel better tomorrow.

Recently, I have not been worrying or stressing about things that much. I could even say that my worrying and stressing have been close to non-existant. I can see how much I’ve grown in the past year, I’ve gone through a lot and it all has made me into a stronger and in some way a calmer person. My situation in life has improved, nowadays I’m just happy. I was happy before, too, for the most part, but now everything’s just a lot more balanced. I don’t have all those horrible mood swings anymore, I don’t get down that much. It’s much more peaceful now.
Of course I will keep worrying and stressing from time to time, but it’s just human nature. We all have our moments, both good and bad. We sometimes worry about things and stress can be a part of our daily lives very often. I’ve just learnt to deal with it a lot better and I feel that I’m doing much, much better than when I first took up this goal.
I still haven’t figured out my future, my mission in life etc, but that doesn’t worry me so much anymore. I’ll find it out, I’m sure. I just need to be patient and be open to things.
I’ll probably re-encounter stress next autumn when my studies at the university continue, but I think I’ll be fine. Like I said, I can deal with stress better now and I have a new perspective on things. My goal has been met. :)

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I can’t wait for things in life to subside a little so we can just enjoy being together. Between the wedding, finding and getting our own place together, graduation, my new job, and everything else… all in the span of a month—I feel like I’m one big walking ball of stress. I move into my new apartment May 1st, graduate May 16th, get married, May 24th, go on my honeymoon May 25th through 31st, and start my new job June 1st.

I’m a lot better than I used to be at dealing with stress, but with all these events taking place in such a short time I think its natural to feel stressed. In fact, I took one of those “life events” stress tests, and it gave me an 80% chance of suffering from a stress related illness. 80%! I’m not going to lie, I’ve been feeling the effects, but…

I’ve been doing my best to stay calm and centered. I’m drinking lots of chamomile tea to keep myself relaxed and help me sleep at night. I’m trying to let others help me out if there is something I can pass on. I just have so many things floating around in my head right now, I feel like I’m being pulled in nine different directions.

And on top of it all, I’m driving my fiance nuts. He wants me to relax and enjoy the process, but I can’t help feeling a little martyred about the whole thing. I mean, I know I’m not the only one who is under stress right now, but he isn’t the one pulling all these things together either. Nor do I want him too! He is being sweet, he wants to help… but he can’t do it all. The problem is neither can I—without going a little bonkers.

I think it wouldn’t be so hard, except that the wedding is not the only big change I’ve got going on right now. I mean, I’m also moving my stuff for the tenth time in 5 years. I’m also being trained for a new job. I’m also doing my schoolwork and preparing to be done with college. Life is going to majorly different for me, really really soon. Its a lot to deal with all at once.

I just want everything to be settled down. These past few months have been a whirlwind of planning, interviewing, and working. I am ready for a break. I want to enjoy myself again, and have time for me. I just have to retain my sanity for a few more weeks!

Hold it together Liz… you can do it.

Hi, came across this site and thought nothing ventured nothing gained. Anyway to cut to the chase, you would think at 40 years old (just turned) full time job (IT Manager), and a new lady in my life (Getting married on Sept 5th 2009 (Less than 5 months) you would think I have nothing to worry about or indeed nothing to get stressed about. And yet all I find myself doing is worrying. And I hate myself for feeling like this.

Let me take you back to March 2008, having just come out of a 11 year relationship, I was all over the place even though it was my decision to split, as I couldn’t take anymore of the constant everything is my fault, when you are told something pretty much on a daily basis almost you do start to believe it. Anyway like I said I ended this 11 year relationship, even though it was very painful, as I did love the woman. Just to add, she did have a brain injury, and other health issues which also added to the strains as it would to any relationship, but I did stick with it for as long as I could as I was so in love wth her. Anyway March 2008, me and my partner agreeed to split, and I bought her share of the house, so in effect I bought her out (Her choice) ... In the first few months I met a few women on the internet through dating sites, first one was too soon after my split, and then the 2nd lady I met again was going all ok, and lasted some 5 months, but again I ended it as it wasn’t really right, as she was getting divorced. But I did enjoy the time we spent together, and wouldn’t of changed anything, as she gave my confidence a boost as she was very attractive, stunning in fact. And we had some fun times.

Anyway last September I met another woman, again online. And we hit it off straight away, so much so within 3 months I asked her to marry me, live during a gig we were at, and she responded by saying yes. The wedding is all booked and September 5th 2009 cannot come round quick enough for me. This lady has shown and giving me so much and I am for the first time in my life, totally in love with one person, this is like something I have never felt. 2 months ago I moved in with her, and whilst things are great, more than. I do find myself worrying all the time, i’m so down on myself most of the time, and dont understand why, like I said good job, lovely lady, life going ok … what more does anybody need, but I feel inside that once somebody shows me love, I have to push it away. When I take a step back I can at times see what I’m doing, but then the next day or day after that, the worries come back. I do try talking through things in my head, and also try to offset the worrying by thinking postive, by if i’m truthful the negagtive thoughts tend to win through. I know within the short time of meeting my future wife some 6 months now, alot of things in my life have changed all for the better, I just need to keep my worrying in control or I do risk frightning her off. Am I just worrying for worrying sake?? I mean since meeting my partner, we both having stopped for air, and we have let my house, and I have moved in. Also now we have been planning and booking the wedding, almost done, honestly our feet haven’t touched the ground, but I wouldn’t change any of it. Both friends and family on both sides can see how much we make each other happy, its just that I wear my heart on my sleeve as I do my expression, and I just want to be happy, and keep my worrying at bay.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated, I hope the above sort of makes sense. I just think I need to take a step back and chill but how do you go about that, when you life style and work load dont allow it ..
So yes I would love to be able to control my worrying, I suppose it all comes down to be more confident, but how do you build up on your own self confindence when you are feeling low ??? Its a vicious circle, and I dont want to put my partner off.

All this wedding planning stuff has me wondering what the next year year will be like. Everything will be so different.

We’ll get to live together for the first time in just a few short months. I’m really excited, but nervous too. I’ve had a lot of roommates throughout my college career (eight), but this is one roomie relationship that is lasting. So… what will it be like?

It seems odd to think of myself as being a wife. Having a husband.

I can’t believe everything is changing so drastically for me. Not just my relationship, but my life in general. I will be out of college, working full time, living with my husband, studying for the CPA exam, moved into a new place… its downright overwhelming to think about!

And I have so many things to do in the next four months that I feel claustrophobic at times. How does a girl manage all of this and stay sane?

But then I remind myself that I am thinking about these changes and tasks as big scary abstract ideas. I’m going to work on breaking things down into manageable bits, because the whole picture is just a bit too much for me sometimes.

I can’t even imagine going through all of this without the love and support of my fiance and family. I know this will be a tough year for me, in good and bad ways.

Hopefully I can rise above it and use some of the stress management techniques I have learned in the last few years. One of them happens to be writing on 43T. I really don’t have the time, but sometimes you just have to make time to be with yourself and forget about everything.

Cheers to one exciting year!

I’m really trying to stay positive once again and not let this stress and worrying beat me, but it’s getting quite tough.
Only 16 days before I head on my holiday to the USA and the pile of school work I have before my departure is immense. :c I’ve managed to finish a few things in the past couple of days, but there’s still so much left, I don’t know how I’ll be able to do everything.
I’m also worried about the trip, it makes me very nervous. I know that things will go just fine, but this uncertainty and the problems with Ryis are not really helping me feel at ease. I’m worried about many people, actually. It just feels like there’s too much going on right now.
And those damned feelings of insecurity… I’m really trying to keep them away, but it’s proving to be very hard. I don’t expect to change everything right away, I know it’s not possible; I just wish things were a bit easier. I don’t want to be like this. But I can’t reason with myself, my mind doesn’t listen to my explanations and confirmations very long.

I just wish my life was a little more peaceful.
I’ll try to cheer myself up again, but I just needed to write this now. Maybe it’ll help in some way.

i need to unwind and everything will sort its self out and learn to trust that everything will

I’ve been somewhat worried for my attitude lately, I fear I might be turning into a mean bitch because of these tough times I’ve had the past few weeks. I feel like saying nasty, unkind things to people that don’t deserve it at all. I’m constantly on the verge of snapping at someone. I feel like yelling and raging. I don’t want to be like this and I don’t really know why I’m turning into this bully, but I hope I’ll be able to stop this progress soon, before it gets out of hand.
If I have said something even remotely unpleasant to you lately, please forgive me. I haven’t really been myself. :z

I’ve had lots of different things on my mind and they all have caused me quite big worries. It seems like everything is piling up right now, I have this huge weight on me all of a sudden and I don’t quite know how to handle it. I’ve really felt like giving up on several occasions, everything just seems so so hard. But I’ll try to be strong and pull through.
I haven’t had time to properly think about these thing that are worrying me and since I’m not dealing with them, they just keep weighing on me.

On Friday, when my last exam is over, I will do my best to start relaxing and dealing with my problems for real. Even though I’ll have to move, I don’t think of it as a burden – it’s more like a fresh start and I like those very much.
Next week, once I’ve settled in in my new home (♥), I’ll take things as easy as possible and I’ll work through my current problems to the best of my abilities. I’m so glad that my holiday is close now, only a couple of days to go… Wish me luck.

I finally did something productive about my high stress levels: I quit my second job.

All summer I barely had any time to myself. I worked 40 hours a week (Monday through Friday) at one job, and another 20 hours (Friday, Saturday and Sunday) at another. On Fridays is wasn’t unusual for me to go from one job, straight to the other and do a 15 hour day. In the meantime, I was driving 7 hours per week to martial arts classes (an hour away) and taking 10 hours of class (Monday through Thursday nights) to get my black belt.

To top all of it off, I got engaged and started planning a wedding for May 24, 2009.

I was overwhelmed, overstressed, and getting no time for me, my fiance, or my family. Once school started I knew something had to go if I was going to keep my sanity.

So I quit. I hated quitting, but I am so proud of myself for doing it. Some things are just more valuable than money.

I am a one job woman, attending full time college, planning my wedding for May… and stressing out a lot less!