i have a gf or ex gf idk but we have been goin out for 10 months and we lived with each other for most of that but her sis was havein a baby so she went back home to help her and i think she got into drugs and she want pick up my calls or text we have always talked about kids and getin married and stuff like that but i love her more than any thing in the world and she knows i will always be there for her but people keep tellin me go on with ur life she will come back to u but she makes me the happy and when she around i think i can do any thing i know i am not the smartest dude in the world or the coolest but i think when u find some one u really love u need to fight for them i dont know if im right but im goin to think that tell the day i die i just dont know how some one can talk to u one day tellin u they love you and then the next day not call or text for 5 days + i just dont know what to do is fightin for some one really worth doing? i dont know but i hope to find out
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OK so i was wondering about this thing and i figured where would be the best place to ask a question than internet, right???
what would you do if you’re going out with a girl who smoke’s weed and you don’t know about??
I’ve been dating this girl for about a long while now but we don’t live together. we work at same place too and it wasnt untill recently that one of her friends slipped and told me that my gf smokes weed and been smoking all this time. i have asked her before but she always said she don’t and i trusted her. her friend is also a co-worker (no she don’t like me or any other things you might think) and asked me not to be mentioned who told me when i confront my gf.
smoking has always been a big no for me, my entire life i have never even touched a cigarette or drink a sip of alcohol and i decided to stay that way. so going out with someone who smoke weed is obviously out of question for me. but this is not just about smoking here but she also lied all this time.
so now I’m thinking about dumping her after new year, i really don’t wanna screw her Christmas or new year. so my question is am i really overacting or is it the right thing to do. this is not the first time she lied, last time she was pregnant (nope not by me, her ex. figure that out right).
would do actually continue going out with someone who lie to you about her smoking habit and that she smoke weed???
any honest input will be appreciated.
and please by any means do not educate me about the goods of weed. i know all about it. i have 2 years of med background.
p.s. i’m working towards my engineering(dual major) program and will be done in about 2 years, no kids and have a job.
she has a kid, had her kid when she was completing her GED, has a job and dreams about opening her own studio.
i’m not trying to be negative about her and by all means i love her damn too much(i did accept her with her kid) but i dont think i can do it with her being weed head or pothead or whatever is the street name.
any advice, thanx in advance.
its the same girl in my other post, “broken heart”.
i know i’m stupid for going out with her again, but not again so any advice :)
going strong. i’m staying cheerful, listening to happy music and making eyes at men. the only problem i have is that throughout the day, images pop up in my head of us kissing the last time as BF/GF, and of old times, which caused me to well up with tears and i would have to hide it. the worst part was when i had to run to the bathroom during a lecture to cry. i had dinner with a friend who just went though the same thing, i thought i was okay to talk about it, but i kept choking up in the middle of the restaurant. i was starting to get down, until later on after class, a guy i’m attracted to walked me to where i was going and kissed my hand, which made my whole day. then, i met up with freinds and had a good time smoking hookah. it felt so good to talk about nothing again! my ex is the most serious person i’ve ever met, so loosening up was wonderful. tomorrow i’m avoiding the house at all costs, because friday used to be the night we’d go out. i’ll visit different freinds throughout the day and try to get through it.
things that i’m doing to feel better:
-deleted the ‘trigger’ songs off my ipod, which could cause me to get emotional
-cry when i need to
-making an effort to eat even though i don’t feel like it
-spending lots of time with freinds
-responsibly slacking off
-being flirtatious
-listening to happy music
-wearing new clothes, looking nice
my first boyfriend of four months broke up with me last night. everything was going great in our relationship, the only thing missing was love. we had a discussion where i wanted to tell him i loved him, and i didn’t care if he said it back. a day later he explained to me in an email that he could no longer be my boyfriend because he didn’t want to hurt me more deeply in the future. that night i met him at his place and we hugged and talked about the terms of our breakup. he offered a ride home, on the way i was so upset that i made myself sick and we had to pull over so i could vomit. we’re still freinds, we have plans together, and we can chat online. i guess what i wanted to achieve in this forum, is the strength to continue to thrive despite what i thought was my worst fear coming true, to not hold any delusions about ever getting him back, and to continue our friendship while sorting out my feelings for him. we made a great match, but he’s not the one. sometimes good relationships can hit a dead end. he’s not coming back, it’s not the end of the world, and there is someone out there for you.
Basically I’ve been with this guy for just over a year, and personally, that is the longest time I’ve ever been with someone and I was very serious about him. Anyway, I knew him through friends but not very well, and at the beginning of last year I bumped into him at a friends party. We started to chat and we got along so well. We ended up going out for dinner two days later, and from then on, I spent literally everyday at his house just as friends. I knew that we had sparks and I couldn’t stop thinking about him! When he asked me out a week later, I was shocked because it was so soon. I said i wasn’t sure at first, but 2 days later I knew I had to be with him, and from then on we were an official couple. Everything was blissful, I’d see him almost everyday because he used to have his own business and only worked twice a week. Up until recently, he started to lose his temper and we’d end up arguing alot. I know it had something to do with his new job because he wasn’t earning as much as he used to, and was starting to gain weight. I wanted to help him, but he was stubborn and refused. Last night was the final straw, and he ended it. I guess I could see it coming, but I don’t know how I can get through this. I wish that things could be different. It’s hard to adjust to a different way of life, to go back to the way everything used to be. I still love him, and I’m all cried out..I hope I can get through this.
=(im so tired..my boyfriend broke up with me on NEW YEARS!!
he said he was too young..and felt that he couldn’t commit anymore..
we were together for 7 month..my first boyfriend too = (
my heart feels like its going to explode and my nose is dry from being wiped to much =(
Hey, I met this girl on xbox live who i have known for a while and we asked each other out. We sent pic. messages to each other once in a while and talk on Aim sometimes too. You see, She has an Ex who’s name is Chris and is “like a brother to her”. I talk to her little cousin 9yrs. old (boy). She also has another cousin (girl), and I’ve talked to her and my gf (Ciara) thought that Lexi(her cousin) was flirting with me. Ciara says she would never cheat on me though. Well after about of 3 mnths. of going out she tells me that she thinks that we should work on a friend relationship before we work on a love one. I’ve never made her say anything or I’ve never said or done anything to make her uncomfortable. She says she’s been thinking about it for 2-3 days. So i just say ok although that’s when i started to get sad. To my surprise 2 days later I talk to Lexi and found out Ciara said she wanted to get back with Chris. After that about 2 days later i find out she had made out with him when she stayed the night. I confronted her about it and said some things but i havent really worked it out. Im going out with Lexi now and I break down in class almost every day. with feelings of love and hate, what should i do?
I was with my gf for 2 years and like a previous entry said that for a young person it may not seem important , but to me it was my life, unfortanatly its just another stage in life and after you know you can live without them you realise why was i upset over sumone who is not upset over me . Bottom line is you either want to be with me or you dont so make your mind up but while your making your mind up dont expect me to sit round bein upset over you and the more interst you show them the more they will use it to thier advantage so my answer is once theyv gone theyv gone no contact no nothing from your side if they love you they will be there when you most need them .
Hi! bout me…trying hard right now to heal my broken heart, i’ve always been the kind of friend that ppl look 4 a dosage of reality the “he’s not good 4 you!” type, dated a lot of men never really falling in love, i was doing my med internship, and this resident (kinda my boss….) started to look 4 my interest, i didn’t like him of course i mean… he just wasn’t my type… so i even dated another guys in his face tough i knew he was madly in love with me, suddenly whe started to go out as friends, and he became my best friend… so i said hey… let’s give it a shot… i wasn’t really into him like that but let’s see what happens… he won me off… at the 1st month we were talking about marriage and kids… i was madly in love for him, worshiped him… and it looked like he was that into me to.. i didn’t know when did he start to act cold and careless… but all i could tought was hey… i’ll be supportive.. i’ll be here for him no matter what and if i tried to ask what was going on he was like.. nothing… we are ok… is just work… he treated me like crap for like 4 months and i handled it.. quiet… cuz i loved him… until finally i took the strenght to confront him and tell him i don’t like the things this way… it has to change or then.. we need to move on.. and he stood mute… i’m still hard broken, of course thank God i moved for my work and met old friends and seemed happy and talk shit about him makes you feel so strong!!! but then when u r alone at night and everything is quiet… then i burst into cry like a baby ashamed of myself and i don’t know what hurts more.. the fact that we’ll never b together anymore… or the fact that he didn’t care at all… so… i started to turn the radio really loud at nights!!! hahah whatever can help :) ...i’m still hopping to be able to believe in guys again :P
