stop explaining myself

I’ve realised I have a tendency to explain everything I do. Why I want to eat something, why I said this and that, why I’m wearing this today, even why I want to return something to a shop. Normally, people would say “I’d like to return these shoes”, but in my case I feel guilty for not saying they’re too small or whatever, just insane. I annoy even myself by explaining my friends why I feel that way or why I think something is right or wrong. It kind of makes me think I don’t believe in myself if I have to sort of defend myself to others. Maybe understanding my actions and saying it aloud helps me to get rid of my problem.

but for now I need to focus on some short term goals.

Don’t explain. Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it. -Unknown

Less is more and less makes me feel lighter. In February, for the first time ever, I started working with my mother. In all these years we’ve never worked together. She pointed out that at work have a tendency to over explain myself. For instance when I’m going on a break I say, “I’m going on my break now because…” and then begin listing all the reason why it should be ok to go now. The other people just say, “I’m going on my break” and then walk away. Since she said this I’ve been monitoring my speech, thoughts and even my entries and she’s right.