improve my relationship with my brother

we’re having a very good relationship, made of confidence and deep, though modest, love. We’re not “best friends”, we don’t know each other’s intimacy, we don’t spend hour talking, but it is fine the way it is, and I know we always be here when the other needs us.

I was very touched by his proposal to join his group of friends for a ski week-end at the beginning of january.

(my brother’s one) definitly did a lot. It was really cool, against what I was expecting… Everything was very “traditional”, but done with heart, they really have great friends, it was very, very well organised… And since I was really feeling fine with all this, I got involved a lot, I did what my bro had asked me to do, plus a few more things I think he really appreciated. I read that text, during the ceremony, that nobody new and they really liked. I left a blanck book for everybody to write theirs “I remember…” about them (and in that book I wrote my story of him falling asleep on my shoulder…).

And then I loved it, during the evening, when my father’s powerpoint evoked “your relationships with both of you older sisters” and my brother turned to me and had this accomplice glance…

Wow. That was a very good moment. I love him, and I wish them a great bunch of happiness !

it’s that right as a goal, in fact.

My brother and I have been fighting for 13 years. Then we became more adults, that day in the car when he felt asleep on my shoulder happened, and we became some friends. But we’ve never been really close. We love each other very much, that’s for sure, but we’ve never been each other’s confidant. We also live far from each other, and lead quite different lifes…

So, I don’t know. Calling him from time to time for a talk would be kind of artificial. Trying to speak with him more when I see him, right, but about what ? Trying to do more things with him, that could be a goal…

Well, it’s a nice occasion to think about what I would like to improve in my relationship with him. Let’s do that.

And, by the way, his birthday is today. Let’s call him right now.

Perkyanda.

Erm… Will talk about this one later.

I think this is better. I think this is as good as it’s going to get.

I don’t know where things went so astray with my brother. Perhaps it’s the distance, perhaps it’s just the way it is with adult siblings. I so want to be close to him, but just am not. I get upset with him…he’s terrible at communicating, which doesn’t help. I wish I knew how to change this problem, but frankly, I think it’d take BOTH of us to make the change.