maintain great friendships

It’s these kind of goals that are always harder to cross of one’s list… because they are on going.

Right now, this goal is being completed, my friends are wonderful! Let’s hope I never see this goal again, showing everything is swell in my relationships with friends.

...nothing could be better :)

Friends are so important to me… lots isn’t so, but having just a few really close friends means everything.

I’d say there are about three people in my life that I would actually call ‘true friends’ (for arguments sake I’ll call them Aaliyah, Grace and Troy) those that would be there for me when I need them, those that I can just be myself around and that bring out the best in me. Those that I enjoy being with.

Today I spent the afternoon with Aaliyah and Grace, as well as a few others I’d say were just ‘friends’.

And I’m already making good progress actually… Saturday I’m out with Troy, and next week I’m having two meal’s… one with Aaliyah and the other with Grace.

I’m thinking a lot about the autumn when I’ll be leaving for University. It’s these people that I know I’ll stay in touch with, which makes me slightly sad to be leaving my home town, but I know there will be plenty of time for traveling all over the country to see them!

friendships are more important than anything else in the world, cherish them.

I sent an email shortly before Xmas to my buddies from university and Saturday we ate dinner together! It was a lot of fun, especially that we all have little kids now and most of them were babysat that evening, so we could enjoy some grown up time!!

...to be treasured, always!

My girlfriend is interested in doing this and I know that I will love it too so in an effort to spend more time together – away from our kids – I think I’ll suggest that we take a beading class together.

I have friends, lots of them, but I am missing something; the urge to see any of them. There are times in my life where I have been super friendly and have all the friends in the world, and then I shed it all off like dead skin and start over. A few friends seem to fail to shed and stick around, but in the process, I will avoid contact with them for months upon months.

Currently, I have been in a “shed” process for nearly a year. I barely call anyone, see anyone, and for whatever reason I don’t feel like I miss them. My main conflict in this, I guess, is whether this is making me a bad person or not. I know it hurts the feelings of those friends of mine. Some of them are used to it now, after knowing me for years, but again, this current episode just isn’t ending.

Sometimes I wonder if this means I never considered them “true” friends to begin with, but I think they are. I just dion’t seem to feel any drive to see them. I’m missed holidays and birthdays. I have been told by my girlfriend that maybe they should try to call me, but that feels like I’d be blaming them. I don’t think it’s anyone’s fault but my own.

This current episode began a few months after me and my girlfriend got together, so I wonder if for something my brain is now hardwired to her and her only. This also doesn’t make complete sense, because I’ve done this before with or without a girlfriend. I’ll come out of my shell, be social, go to coffee shops, house parties, whatever, and make many many friends and get closer to my really good friends. Then, after close to a year of that, I disappear. Livejournal is dead. Myspace is dead. The only way anyone can learn anything from me is by calling me, which rarely happens.

These diappearing acts are beginning to frustrate me, and I’m sure they do my friends to, but I don’t know, because I haven’t talked to them.

I do have some friends that I still see on occasion, but that’s because they are in Orlando, a hundred or two miles away. I see them during seasonal visits, or when they are back in town here. We all went to high school together, and college together for the year I was in college. Unavoidable circumstances removed me from college after a year, and subsequently, out of Orlando, and away from those friends. Those few in orlando, I still have the desire to be close to, but the ones I have locally, I just…

Maybe someone reading this has a similar problem or knows about it and can say something.

My goal is either to regain the desire to see all my friends again, or find out why I lost it at all.

We had a blast at the park this morning and all six kids were great!

We were surprised but we actually found it quite relaxing.
It was so great to see my friend again and for all of our kids to play.

Afterwards, we stopped at the Golden Arches for lunch and even that went smoothly!

Now my little ones are sleeping and I get a little break to relax… yeah!

My girlfriend and I (and all six kids) are getting together tomorrow for a playdate at the park! Yahoo!

I miss my friend! Of course, we won’t really have time to talk at any great length but it will just be nice being together.