become assertive

I don’t quite understand why there are not more entries for this desire. I suppose the only reason is that assertiveness comes in other flavors as well: self-confidence, power, go-getter, self-assured… Even I don’t know definitively what being assertive is. But considering the synonyms, I know it is a trait I want. My lack of assertiveness has made me more or less a wimp. I rarely stand up for myself and am the queen of 20/20 hindsight. “I shoulda…” “I coulda…” “If Id’a…” There is a very good book I’ve started reading called “The Power of Positive Confrontation,” by Barbara Pachter. Very good read! I recommend fellow wimps like me (and surprisingly Barbara was) to study this book cover-to-cover.

Usually, I relate confidence to experience. Because I believe I am lacking in some crucial experience in one aspect or another in my life, I feel I cannot be confident in what I have not attained yet. Assertiveness comes from confidence. I am assertive in some things, but I would consider these things trivial, but at least I am assertive in some things. What good is a person who cannot speak up and fend for themselves?