get over my ex-bf

even though he was a complete arse to me, a part of me still loves him and wants to be with him.

no one not even i understand why especially as he’s such a sickhead and i know that he’s not good for me (we were going out for a year and for basically 9 months of that time he was fucking other girls)

i know he’s not worth me but it’s so hard.

Many many many months passed since the last time I wrote about this, but I can happily say that yup, it’s over, actually it was over since I triumphed in enjoying being single…

I think that’s one of the most important things… To enjoy being on your own, because if you’re not happy by yourself, no ammount of time will help getting over someone who was not for you.

I’m not saying give up on your relationships if something’s going wrong… But DEFINITELY, do not stay if the relationship is toxic enough that you can’t remember who you were and how happy you were before that person arrived in your life.

I wish you all luck in getting over a break-up, it’s always a hard thing to do, and grieving is healthy and sometimes even necessary for healing. But it doesn’t have to consume your life. Suffer what you have to suffer, but try as humanly possible to make it short, cuz life is too short to be crying over spread milk, over something that has no “happy ending” (in a realistic, non-faery tale way).

In short, what I’m trying to say is that even though the pain seems like it’ll never end, you realize that if you focus in all the good things that come with not being taken, and all the great things you had before him, it’s not as hard to see the rainbow that will come after the storm.