When I say I want to be fearless I mean that i want to take more risk. I am always doing everything the safe way. Not only socially but also dance wise. I want to be able to dance like there are no rules & I want to live like there are now rules. 4 months ago
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How I did it: First I want to define what "Be fearless" meant to me. I wanted to be able to put myself out there on the internet without fear. I wanted to be able to post on Facebook and other blogs and be free of the fear that would arise inside me -- the fear was grounded in my tendency to freak myself out with pictures of people judging me and my posts which would lead to ostracism.
How I broke free of this fear is through intentional practice and through observation of myself to discover what I truly feared.
Intentional practice. What this means is that I would give myself mini-challenges and no matter how scared I was, I would simply follow through. I would focus on the activity that I was doing rather than the fearful thoughts streaming through my mind. Example, on 9/22/12 I decided that I would post a Facebook Status to simply practice posting. I didn't know what to say so I actually said that I was posting to practice not being so freaked out at posting on Facebook. In the end, it was a fun exercise because I got a lot of support from my Facebook friends.
Observe myself to discover what I truly feared. This was a very introspective process. What I would do is when I felt the fear arise inside me I would observe the thoughts flowing through my mind. I would ask myself, "What do I think is going to happen if I take this action?" My answers would help me understand what "the monster" was that I was afraid of. Example, I realized what I really feared about posting on Facebook is that people I didn't know that well would judge me. So, I gave myself a mini-challenge to understand Facebook's features and I discovered the "list" features. The lists helped me segment my "friends" into categories so I could control who my posts went to. By increasing my knowledge-base and skillset with Facebook's features, I felt more confident which eliminated my fears.
Read how I did it… 7 months ago
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I have engaged with some challenging things. A lot that would have overwhelmed me 2 years ago. But even though I’m facing my fears, there always seems to be another one behind it. 8 months ago
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My conditions of satisfaction for
BEING FEARLESS:
- I easily post a status update or photo on Facebook without any thought or nervous energy. Rather my energy is fun, collaborative, and has a friendly vibe.
- I post helpful blogs that people enjoy reading.
- I find my voice and am not afraid to use it in a supportive and helpful way.
- I am not afraid of being perceived as stupid or incompetent because only I can make myself feel that way. I choose to believe I am a helpful contributor and I am valued and loved. 13 months ago
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Looking at me from the outside people think I’m pretty confident and at times I believe it myself. I can speak in front of groups of people at work without a single butterfly in my stomach. Then, the thought of putting myself out there on sites such as Facebook or blogging/vlogging (which is something I want to do) for some reason makes me fearful. Images of people scowling at my posts or guffawing at my stupidity are what pop in my head. So, this goal is about me getting over my fear of “being seen.” I do my best to stay under the radar sometimes because I don’t want to “get in trouble,” (Wait a minute…really? I mean, who will I get in trouble with?—Oh wait…my Mom, that’s who. Hmmm…I’m seeing a theme here of childhood fears showing up in the present. Interrrresting. Gotta keep my eye on that.)
Anyway, my goal is to post pictures, wins, losses, thoughts, etc. here and then branch out. What better place to start to be fearless than on a goal-setter site? 13 months ago
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