Be more sociable

to hear from a good friend that you’re not as much of a social retard as you thought :-)

I have no way of quantifying this goal but I think it may be nearly time to consider it completed.

I added this goal towards the beginning of this year, and I think I have been making some progress:

We threw a party at C and my flat for C’s 25th birthday – that was the first party I’d ever held!

When we came back from the US we moved in with some other people so that’s forced us to be more sociable, which was half the point of moving back in with flat mates.

We held a flat warming party, and almost every week now we have pub quiz night at Frankensteins with a bunch of people from work, we also have weekly staff screenings of old movies, and we’ve gone out dancing or to the pub a few times too. Oh plus R and N seem to love games so there’s lots of big games of Cranium, Scene-It, Balderdash and the flat staple – Guitar Hero! I’d like to do more but I still have to focus on getting through uni….

I also made myself go to a Social Anthropology Society get together. But I’m obviously still a bit useless at socialising with new people, because I didn’t feel confident enough to talk to anyone and the experience was actually traumatic!!

Will I ever have the guts to go back??

So a new sub-goal of this is to make suggestions for plans more often and not worry if it doesn’t work out. I guess it could also qualify as a sub-goal for ‘Fight the Fear’ too.

Like ‘Develop a thicker skin’, this one is also dependent on my mood.
When I’m happy I love being out, having lunch, going for drinks, pottering about with friends, whatever really. But when I’m feeling low, wow, I don’t want anyone near me. So as with the aforementioned goal the aim with this one is to be better during my low periods.

I can safely say that I am well on my way to doing this and it has definately not been half as hard as I thought it would be. All that was required was making a bit of effort. I have made myself get in contact with peopl I haven’t spoken to in ages, I have been more sociable at work and instead of turning down offers of meeting up with people in the evenings I am starting to actually look for opertunities to do so. Its great and I feel so much better for it because it makes me feel better as a person, more appreciated as I can start believeing again that people actually want to hang out with me. I am so happy with my progress, long may it continue.

My next plan is to take up some classes and see if I cant improve my social circle that way as well as learning some useful skills.

Im a homebody, and I rarely mesh well with others, I have to connect with everyone on so many different levels, and I end up just wishing to be at home.

i know i want it!! im not mean or anything, i just look unapproachable and dont know how to relax when i talk to people. i shall overcommee!!

I consider this a completed goal. Volunteering has gotten me out of the house in ways that even school never did. Here’s to volunteering and to the hope that this will keep up.

I’m trying out a few volunteer gigs to see if it will ease me out of my shell. Here’s to hoping.

i just don’t think i’m doind good enough to make everyone happy.