Become less afraid of failure and allow myself the room to make mistakes

A few days ago I found something connected to a bad habit I’m trying to give up. Rather than get rid of it right away, I indulged. I decided afterwards, however, to destroy it, and I remembered that now, to the best of my knowledge, there was no more leftovers connected to that vice.

Better to look towards the positive aspects of an experience.

I have had a terrible problem with perfectionism, in that it has held me back from growth in a number of ways. I let go of some neat freak habits, but I often tried to hide my imperfections or avoid showing them.

I am learning that sometimes I have to make a mistake to learn and grow.

This goal will be incredibly important when I am going trough practical studies the next three months.

daily motivator February 26, 2008

Learn from it

When the result is not what you expected, learn from it. When you get the result you want, learn from that too. Every experience is a wonderful opportunity to learn.

Wisdom comes from learning the difficult lessons which experience teaches. With wisdom comes respect, authority and effectiveness. You pay a hefty price for wisdom, and yet what you get is even more valuable than what you paid.

It is indeed difficult to console yourself to “learning from this” when things fail to go your way. It is much easier to get angry, to get depressed, to complain or even to forget about the whole thing. But when you do that, you end up paying the price without getting any value in return.

Whatever happens, let it increase your wisdom and, ultimately, your success. Whatever happens, get past the concerns of the moment and learn from it.

Source: http://today.myway.com/motivator.html

Picture: http://www.mcescher.com/indexuk.htm

but in retrospect I have grown more in that time than ever before too… so I guess it comes with the territory.

“Mistakes are a part of being human. Appreciate your mistakes for what they are: precious life lessons that can only be learned the hard way. Unless it’s a fatal mistake, which, at least, others can learn from.”
Al Franken, “Oh, the Things I Know”, 2002

The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.
Elbert Hubbard (1856 – 1915

As of late I have been very intrigued with horoscopes. I grew up with the mentality that they are just flukes but in the past month they have been dead on in my life. I believe that there is more to life than what we can see and perhaps this is just a glimpse of that? Anyway here is my horoscope or today and I think it fits quite well with this goal!!!

“Lately you’ve been fighting the urge to start any new projects - but today is finally the right time to embrace a new idea and work on fleshing it out. Initiate something new, and you will get the strong sense of possibility - the sense that you truly can shape your life in a new way if you want to. Are you afraid of getting what you really want? Nonsense! The universe says that any pathway you start walking down today will lead you to enlightenment.”

See these goals also:

Write More Often
Get A Better Job
Love Without Fear
Go Back To College

I once read that all of our negative feelings and thoughts stem from one base emotion: The Fear Of Rejection.

I always thought that I was someone who was not afraid to be my own person—I’ve never really followed a clique, and I’ve always been too open-minded to really fit in anywhere. If you give me one side of the story, I’ll give you the other; it doesn’t matter which side you are presenting to me.

So, why is this such a big deal to me?? Maybe I’m actually just the opposite. Maybe I’m so afraid of committing to an idea, cause, person, job, etc, because I am a severe perfectionist—and if I can’t do something perfectly, than I simply reject it.

I really need to stop giving a damn what other people think of me and just throw myself out there!!

I don’t even know what I was looking for—closure or opensure (haha). I certainly got neither; but hell, it was worth a shot.

“TO FAIL IS BETTER THAN TO DO NOTHING.”

I do realize this will be an ongoing goal for me for the rest of my life. My hope is that as the months and years go by I can look back and see progress towards this goal. For too long I’ve let my shame of past failures and my fears of future failures stop me from doing anything with my life. I let them stop me from being me.

As yet I don’t really have a plan of action for going about accomplishing this goal. Any tips and pointers, psycho babble is welcome.