become less enraged at instances of stupidity

I think my ex’s anger issues rubbed off on me. :/ I find myself cussing at stupid things.

I can stop calling people names and cut down on the bad words I use.
I can try to look at the positive side instead of letting it eat away at me. I need to let go of the stupid things that people say.

It is slowly getting better, at least the sarcastic comments. I have to keep reminding myself that most of it is probably the person being ignorant or maybe just tired and overworked.

I’m unsure if I really want as a goal: accepting people’s ignorance. It seems like I’m lowering myself to a substandard place.

But I have grown to realize, people have different logic paths to make a decisions. Moreover, I have a very non-judgmental friend; I have much respect for her because of this. Even when I do stupid things she listens, holds my hand and trusts that I will find my way. I wish I could do the same. I think this goal would help me be a better friend.

The problem is that I am supposed to sign on to other’s madness. I cannot and will not become complacent toward proud ignorance. But rather than trying to explain or educate, in the future I will just stop talking, stop listening, turn around and walk away.

I just fly off the handle. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to grasp this goal completely. UGH!!

There are a lot of reasons why we get angry at others in their instance of stupidity or even get angry at our own stupidity. I found that I had to just let go and realize I can’t control everything. I had an old boyfriend that once told me to say to myself, “One, two, three what the heck is bothering me” before reacting to the rage! I thought he was having his own moment of stupidity when he told me that but guess what it works when you try it! It really doesn’t matter what you say as long as you stop to think and give yourself time to calm down!

When people enrage me with their stupidity now, I take some deep breaths, forgive them for their stupidity and REALLY, think it through before delivering a reaction.

Just Let It Go…learn that ALL people have stupid instances EVEN YOU! Why let rage out on anyone when you can just laugh inside instead.

Stupidity not as low intelligence, of course (and sometimes I doubt if there really is such a “condition”), but as thoughtlessness, or rather, the unwillingness to make an effort to THINK, or more accurately, to think things through. Enraged especially when confronted with stupidity in its worst manifestations: Racism. Sexism. How could I not get angry?

In addition, let me include something not quite as pressing, but also very annoying: tactlessness (there’s a reason I like Henry James so much). Know yourself, but also use your imagination. Imagine the inner life of someone else.

So, yes. The head, the heart.

To not become enraged? That seems hardly possible. But it’s been said that I’m too judgemental and analytical. Maybe I can find a more laid-back way of dealing with other people’s stupid instances – which translates as “learn to control my temper”, a goal I’m already tackling…

In case that is a term that is so un-hip that people don’t know what it means anymore, ‘Here’s the Information’: People do dumb stuff. I see it. I think to myself, wow, that person is an idiot! I could do it so much better. I don’t get to do it better because society says I’m not qualified. For example, two people are fighting, and the right person is losing because they have a bad argument. I say to myself that I could get in there and take their place and win the argument for them, but no! I’m not a lawyer. Whatever. I just have to let it go. Things will happen like they’re supposed to happen. Just let the river flow….

It angers me when people are stupid. Even when my girlfriend acts stupid. I mean sometimes it’s nothing… but I still get angry which is never nice.

I just wish people thought more before acting or talking!!