start dating more

Dating more often or meeting new friends. I’m gay. Looking for more friends and just honest people.

where I just want to stop dating at all….I give up! If it happens..it happens..

Robert V. Italian midforties, looks a lot older than his photos. One pic was in black and white. Hmmm…I met him across the street from my workplace for lunch and I walked iN a looked all around. The place was packed with office workers, but I couldn’t recognize him. I saw a man waving at me…nooooo! I could not recognize him! Well, I had a pretty good lunch. I think he knew I was kind of disappointed cos I didn’t seem to remember him. It has been about a week and a half and we have BOTH not called or emailed each other. I guess it is better to see if there is connection right away rather than waste time communicating online and on the phone. Well that I something I learned!

Met Paul J. for coffee. It was cold and snowy. When we left he said to me “there is public transportation…you can manage your way home, right?” Geez, I live 3 minutes away by car and he didn’t even offer to drive me! Where are all the gentlemen? I know he isn’t interested, but still…have some class and manners man!

Bob. Met him at Starbucks for coffee. Older looking than i expected. Sat for awhile then headed off to the movies, he had bought the tickets in advance. How sweet! We saw “Letters From Iwo Jima.” It was quite good, but we sat in the 1st row cos we were late. Hard to read subtitles from the 1st row! Next went to dinner at some Thai place and had..what else? Pad Thai! It was terrible! I ate half and then Bob ate half of what I had left. Again he declined my offer to pay. I think he is the 1st guy to ever do that..pay for it all. He really is a true gentleman. Very polite and refined. We got along quite well. Said he would call. I would see him again, but I don’t feel any chemistry. Well a different chemistry. But I am dating more and dating is all about choices and dating different people..right?

Met Michael for dinner at Astoria in Greektown. It was raining heavily but I didn’t mind. It was warm and I love the rain..it calms me to no end! I walk in and told the waiter that I was looking for my date. He said “Are you Helen?” Told him that I was and he said “Your friend is here. He told me that he was waiting for a beautiful Asian woman! You must be her! Come he is sitting by the window!” Weird but immediately I felt a chemistry. I felt us both grinning ear to ear. I was not expecting this. He was very attentive, got up and shook my hand, helped me with my coat, pulled out the chair for me etc. He was a gentleman. Very intense. Stared at me all through dinner. We had sat next to each other and he turned his whole body to face me while I kept my front towards the table and just turned my head. Eventually as the night wore on I too was facing him. He is very confidant, but not cocky. I liked him. After dinner we walked in the rain. Then we sat in his car and talked for a bit before I realized it was after midnight. He drove me home and I said “I had a great time!” And he said, “I say that to people I don’t want to see again!” I thanked him for the dinner and left. He kept saying that he was ready for a long term relationship. I don’t know if he is or not. When he was talking about one of his exes it looked like his eyes were welling up with tears. I emailed him and told him that I meant what i said and that I would like to see him again. I don’t like to play games..like waiting x number of days before calling or whatever. Life is too short!

Had coffee with David an ex broadcaster (another one?) who is now a psychotherapist. It was like he was analyzing me the whole time. Nice man, but definitely not my type. I won’t be seeing him again! Gave me a giant bear hug goodbye.

Met Tom for coffee. He is a 33 year old Greek guy that is in the broadcasting/commercial jingles business. Loud booming voice but he won’t give me an example of his work. Great to talk to but not really any chemistry. Can chemistry grow? We chatted for 3 hours. Shook his hand goodbye and walked home. He seemed waaaaaaay more normal than the last guy Ralph!

Met Ralph for coffee on Sunday night. He talked a lot about the book that he is writing and at times he seemed to be lost in his thoughts. I know that they topic he was yammering on about was way over my head. Something about numerology, Mayan Indians, Swastikas, Buddha, Christians etc. It was interesting to a point, I am not sure why he even wanted to go out for coffee. He never asked about me at all!

This is what I awoke to this morning when i opened his email:

“Thanks for listening last night, I can tend to get lost in my thoughts.
But even though I did most of the talking and very little listening I did
not hear any yangs to compliment your yins.

I do hope the sun rises every day for you.”

Ra

Sheesh…..no wonder i dread dating….

I called up a guy I was interested in and we went for coffee. We had been interested in each other for about a year and half. Met once and have been flirting every once in awhile via emails and text messages and phone calls. But out schedules collided and we were with other people. I think we are at different places in this time of our lives. It was fun seeing him though! I am glad we did see each other as was he. Time to get myself back into the dating scene again. I really dread dating..