Maintain in my children their natural authenticity, happiness and sense of freedom

I moved out on my boyfriend. They’re doing infinitely better now.

On Monday, I had to pick up my duahgter in the middle of the day because she didn’t feel well. I took her out, and some seven or eight kids were standing by the fence waving goodbye to her. So she does have other friends…

It’s two days into the new preschool, and my eldest already has a new friend! Am I bursting with pride? – oh no. I have never felt such negative emotions towards such a little boy. He is going to be an emotionally abusive husband one day. He nevr smiles; why she likes him – I can’t tell. Maybe she felt lonely the first day, and he gave her attention. Every time she refuses to do something he wants her to do, he threatens her that he won’t love her. She is truly torn. Worst of all, she starts to adopt his complaining tone of voice. If he is strong enough, he can prevent her from making other friends. I’m really worried.

My children don’t know it’s uncool to be utterly enthusiastic about something. I dread the day they will find out, being put down by other children. I wish I could stop that from happening.
By the way, why is it that in our culture we assume so many times that if something is easy and fun with children, then it must be wrong, and if something is hard, then it must be the right thing to do?