i don’t know how i can just stop being picky cold-turkey. that’s how i am! i am an idealist through and through. i want things to be perfect. i want to fix things that aren’t perfect. when i am looking for something to wear for a special occasion, i get an idea of what i want and then get so frustrated trying to find that exact thing… because it probably doesn’t exist! i’m the same way with guys. i have an idea of this perfect man that i want, and i am probably missing out on some great people. i decide, very quickly, that i can’t be with someone because i don’t think they meet certain criteria or because i’m worried that i might miss out on my “perfect man” while i’m with someone who seems pretty good at the time. i need to be more willing to give guys a chance, even if (or maybe especially if) they are not my idea of who my perfect man is. i should not lower my standards or settle for anything less that i deserve, but i need to give people more time before i decide that they are not for me. who knows, there’s a good chance that what i think of as “the perfect man” is not perfect for me anyways.
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I’m an American living in Germany, I go to an American school and it seems EVERY guy is extremely ugly and/or immature. Off post, the Germans, Turks and others are rather cute, but with the huge cultural differences and some not knowing alot of English, I’m not sure how a relationship with one of them would work. I met one Turkish guy and he was gorgeous, sweet and older – justt like I like them, but he turned out to be INSANELY cocky. I’ve been single for way too long, and I’m on a search.
I’ve heard the “looks don’t matter” (I’m sure I’ve passed up some pretty good guys at school) but I’d hate to have to look at a beast everyday.
I’ve also tried long distance, how boring!
should I settle for something, though I know I deserve more just so I can be in a relationship? Try this different culture thing? or just stay single?
