not be afraid of eye contact

hi everyone,

There was a time when I was scared of eye-contact.

I could manage it when I’d be listening to others but while talking I’d look away.

Over time I realized this-

whenever someone talked to me I liked it better when he or she looked directly into my eyes.

So I concluded if I liked it better when the person looked into my eyes , then surely the opposite person would feel the same. All you need to do is to put yourself in his/her shoes.

So started practicing this..It took some time but it worked.

Sooner or later it turns into a habit and a part of life.

Its not so difficult. All you’ve to do is start with it right away.

I can usually make eye contact when I’m listening to someone else, but when I’m talking I automatically look away. I don’t mean to, and it’s tough to break an unconscious habit like that. I think I’m afraid that if I watch people while they’re listening to me, I’ll see how bored or weirded out they’re becoming. It doesn’t help to look away because I tend to imagine them being that way anyway. It’s kind of like when I was little: if I disagreed with two of my siblings, then they would often make weird faces at each other like, “what is her problem?” Yes, it’s a ridiculous fear!

With most people I am not afraid of eye contract. It helps me to see if they are telling the truth or not.

I try to connect myself to others, but when it comes to looking you in the eye, my confidence falters..

most of the time i don’t anyway. it just sort of faded over time, and i only seem to get it on occasions where i’m feelings especially nervous or when i get panic attacks. the more you practise doing something in general, e.g talking to members of the public/shop assistants etc the more confident you get, and after a while it becomes second nature. most of the time now i’m not even conscious of making eye contact, it jsut comes naturally when you become more relaxed. it’s all a case of practise, but i’m still keeping this goal for now in case of relapse into old habits..

i dont know why i cant look at people in the eye
maybe it was in 4th grade,years ago that i started not to look people in the eye
i wanna change that

not so scared of eye contact anymore. I guess the reason why I was, was because you can see so much with one look into someone’s eyes. I kind of find it very intriguing now. It’s amazing the emotions you can see with just one look into someone’s eyes.

The eyes truly scare me. You really see deep in the soul of people when you stare at them. The eyes show truth. I just try really hard to avoid peoples eyes.

i’m getting better and better at this..woohoo! i just need to keep it up! =)

when i paid at the tills i could actually make contact with the sales people today..without feeling embarassed or awkward. i think this goal is almost complete :D