stop fighting

He says I have to control my temper before we think about moving in together, but there is so much bitterness on my part. We have been dating for 6 years and there’s been nothing but problems. I also have caught him in so many lies lately. It’s really hard to trust him at this point. I really don’t think he sees himself as part of the problem.

We still have the occassional argument, but we get along SO much better than we used to, and are able to communicate our feelings without screaming at eachother.

you didit noyoudidit stop noyoustop…

It’s getting better all the time.

like fighting but i got to stop

getting intio arguments and fights with everyone..even my bf..usualy with him he tells me something or does something stupid(like stick a live barking dog in a microwave)and we get in an argument..i just argue way to much

So I was able to have a serious talk with my guy last night about something that was bothering me without screaming and fighting. This was much harder to do than it sounds. Usually when something is bothering me I tell him in a very honest albeit unsensitive manner and it usually explodes into an all out brawl. I was glad to see that I could actually communicate with him without resorting to that, however it left me feeling like I still had a lot to say. This tells me that I need to practice this type of communication more often to get over this feeling.

I remember watching The Notebook for the first time (sidebar: OMG, how hot is Ryan Gosling?!) and there was a particular scene in the movie that hit very close to home:

Young Allie: Stay with you? What for? Look at us, we’re already fightin’

Young Noah: Well that’s what we do, we fight… You tell me when I am being an arrogant son of a bitch and I tell you when you are a pain in the ass. Which you are, 99% of the time. I’m not afraid to hurt your feelings. You have like a 2 second rebound rate, then you’re back doing the next pain-in-the-ass thing.

When I saw this I said to myself “Holy crap, that is SO my relationship!”. We fight. We fight constantly. We love each other, but we just can’t seem to get along. My guy sees this as a deterioration of our relationship, I think that it’s just the way we are.

I don’t want him to feel like our relationship is falling apart, so I will do my best not to start arguments and not to continue them once they have begun.

Ive been getting quite an amount of teasing at school after i had my operation and none of my good friends defended me…I had a good fight with them and told them how i felt. I really hope they can forgive me for the mean things i sed coz deep down i know i was being unreasonable…

Hi there. I am 20 and my boyfriend, Nick is 19. We have been in love and going out for almost 3 years now and in the beginning we were soo strong in love it was unreal. We still are and aren’t less in love but we realize that our honeymoon stage is over because we have started fighting an awful lot once the second year anniversary hit. We don’t know why but maybe it just seems that our bad things finally showed up and we wanted to be more open about them towards each other. We used to fight with scratching, yelling, screaming, biting, pushing…not nice things and the worse thing is that I did most of this. I loved my boyfriend and he did me too he said so we decided that hurting each other is not nice and could endanger our relationship for a while. We still feel we are destined to be together and both agree that even if we know we will be fighting like this when we’re married we will still get married because that’s how much we love each other. It’s crazy. We don’t hurt anymore but we still scream, yell and ignore each other and say hurtful things almost EVERY single weekend which sucks and hurts but the making up which doesn’t take too long to get to once we’re both understanding is sooo great and it makes us feel like the fight never happened. But it did. We aren’t afraid of a break up but we’re sick of it and wish it would stop…our patience and our stubborness are always a huge part of it and we both have ADD which has some symptoms which make us fight. Last weekend we had another huge fight, a stupid one too, and this time we decided that if we fight during a weekend then he will drive me home or he’ll drive home right after making up and spending some time together to teach us both a cruel lesson. I pray this works. I also wonder if writing out “I will not fight with Nick” every night 100 times will work. Will it? How do we stop FIGHTING??? How do we talk to each other during a fight withiut blaming and yelling? Also, how do I get Nick to get to talk to me more than we do…the only time we talk is during or after a fight or at 11:00pm at night when we’re tired and comfy in each other’s arms. I am marrying this man but we want help for the future. Can anyone help us?