get better at keeping in touch with people who are important to me

because my best friend has suffered a bereavement. We used to be in contact quite irregularly but we’ve been emailing regularly lately and it means that I know about bad stuff as it happens and I’m able to be there for her, well as much as anyone can when you’re in different countries. She did the same for me so I just hope I can help her through this really sad time. This goal is really worth doing especially for times like this.

I’m often too quick to find an excuse not to meet friends and I’m purposefully being more open to it now.

Last night I had a lovely cheap night in with a friend. We bought supermarket pizza and had tea, homemade cookies and giggles. I’m not averse to the odd night out but there’s a great feeling from enjoying the simple things in life like this.

Today I met a group of friends I hadn’t seen in ages – it was hard going in a way and I nearly backed out but I made myself go and it was lovely to see them again and catch up.

I’m also in regular email contact with my oldest friend – we’re actually in touch more often since she moved to the other side of the planet! And she’s been a brilliant support.

And I’m back in touch with another friend on the other side of the country. She’s amazing and inspires me to try different things.

I’m lucky to have people who care – I really need to show them that I don’t take them for granted.

People don’t want to talk to me as much as I want to talk to them. I have a few key people I talk to too much. I now have a facebook. It’s okay. It’s probably better if I went back to not talking much.

i can tell a huge difference in my relationship with my best friend. we talk almost every day now and try to see each other every week or two. before we would talk once every week or two and only see each other every month or so. it’s great feeling like i have somebody i can go to at anytime day or night if i need to talk about a problem or if i just want to chat about nothing.

i’ve also noticed a difference with my boyfriend as well. i talked to him about my concern about our schedule differences affecting our relationship and he was very open to figuring out ways to talk and see each other more often. we even made it a point to text each other more often while i was on vacation and i even called and we talked for thirty minutes which we never talk on the phone.

next is to work on talking to my brother and roommate more often and then my goal will be complete.

Working on it!

This is a slow go, but I am making some steady progress.
1) social media – trite, but at least posting & reading updates keeps me somewhat in touch
2) going to visit local friends, or having them come to my house, at least monthly
3) Meeting up for after-work suppers at least three times a month

I haven’t figured out how to make this seamlessly occur; if I don’t take active steps, time just slips away and I suddenly realize “I haven’t connected with so & so in months!”.

I’ve started scheduling mid-week dinners with various friends, to try to ensure some form of face to face contact with at least the ones who are local to me.

I’m still not doing as well as I’d like on the long distance friends, but at least I am making some progress.

I’ve invited a few friends over for movies and supper this coming Sunday afternoon.

I’m not great at keeping in touch, but I am trying to make conscious strides in this direction.

I had 5 people over yesterday, for snacks and drinks and then supper.

We watched African Queen – from the DVD collection I purchased from my soon to be ex-husband.

Low key, quiet, and a very nice afternoon / evening…