go speed dating

It’s booked for the beginning of October:) Wonder when I’ll start getting nervous…

i’m intellectual, sensitive, caring, witty and also a loving and easy going person. I do not smoke, drink or take drugs. A good way to describe me would be a true gentle woman who is honest both to herself and others. I am nice, a little shy and friendly. I’m not looking for casual sex or one night stands. I am a nice, affectionate, kind, homelike, amusing, active and thoughtful lady. I love volleyball, the beach, the cinema and to watch television. I would like to find somebody thoughtful, affectionate, respectful and amusing. I am looking for a homelike, passionate and responsible man with good education.

looking for some events in my area, i have a friend who also wants to go so when we find somewhere we’re going to make a night out of it

I’ve done it, but i didn’t like it. I thought it’d be a fun night out but it wasn’t really, it was just awkward.

... went last night. it was quite confusing and overwhelming. met 20 girls. well, i say girls, i felt a bit young. anyway – it was great fun. i told anyone who asked what i did for a living that i did voiceovers. when they asked what for: voiceovers for porn movies. seemed to get the conversation flowing. hmmm – interestingly, no ‘yes’ votes thus far (you fill it in online you see, so can check). i’m sure that’s just becasue everyone had to go to work today and thusly haven’t had the opportunity to launch themselves at their computers and tick ‘yesyesthatonepleasethatoneplease!’ yet. so… i am quietly confident that… ah, buggrit. nobody loves me! although, do have two friendship requests so far, so can’t have been too obnoxious!

xxx.

i think this could be an interesting time. i’m actually planning on going next thursday with some mates. hmmm… better think of some stuff to talk about! i don’t see myself finding love, but should be good for a laugh. and, anyway, i’ve already got a project on the boil.

;).

xxx.

I went with the attitude of just having fun, and not worrying about whether any of the women would be interested in me or I’d be interested in them. It was a fun little game to keep conversation alive with a total stranger for seven minutes.

I didn’t feel any connection with any of the women there. I put “yes” on my card for several of them who seemed maybe-possibly, but there were no matches, so it looks like the lack of that feeling was mutual.

What was fun was getting access to people I’d never meet or talk with otherwise. Normally, when you don’t have some spark of connection, you don’t even talk for 30 seconds. So seven minutes is actually a pretty long time. It’s simply amazing how different every person is. No two conversations were similar.

The most difficult thing was getting the conversation started. One opener that got things going fairly well was, “Have you lived in Humboldt County your whole life?” That usually led quickly into travel anecdotes, and talk about major goals and events in people’s lives.

One woman said I look like I read books, and she asked me what I’d read lately. I told her about Blink, which I’d just started that morning. I had just read the section on speed dating before leaving for the event! Then I asked her what she’d been reading, and that led quickly to her interest in a certain kind of modern art. I tried the same thing with a couple other women, and that got conversation going in interesting directions.

I preferred talking about books and recent things done to talking about major life goals and events. The latter sounds like a job interview. The former are more fun and I think they tell you more about the person. It’s just spontaneous conversation where the person’s distinctive way of seeing the world expresses itself naturally.

One other tip I hit on: always shake hands when you first meet. That establishes some rapport and makes you each feel like opening up a little more.

Speed dating is so cute! You spend like 15 minutes with a stranger and see if you like them. It’s a riveting event of just meeting people and having fun. Even if you don’t get involved with a dating relationship you can still make many friends. I think it’s cute and charming and it is one thing I would really like to do someday in my life.