stop apologizing

to people pointing out anything from slight flaws to disasters, whether it’s my fault or not. I’m tired of it. People always point out that I say it all the time, and I’ve even apologized for apologizing too much before—all out of habit.

“I’m sorry” shouldn’t be a habit, and it should be reserved for when it’s meant, rather than used as a generic phrase. It’s annoying that I say it so much, not only to others, but to myself. It’s been a long four years since this habit developed, but I’m finally ready to break it.

Right, it’s silly. I’m going to think of it like profanity, in the sense that the more one uses it, the less meaning it has.

It is really tiring saying “I’m sorry” all the time – and for no reason. I want to feel more comfortable and know that it really is okay to exist! :)

Like a broken record, I say “I’m sorry” over and over and over even though it’s not even my fault or necessary. I make it lose its meaning to those who mean to me.. and I’m sorry.

Homework: Do something I actually should say sorry for, and not say sorry.

Nothing real hurtful, just something careless I’d normally say sorry a hundred times for. I am sick of being one of those dweebs who feels guilty of her own existance and apologizes for things like breathing and not solving world hunger. I also say sorry when other people tell me they have problems I have no responsibility for whatsoever. I would rather err on the side of being a bitch anymore. It’s refreshingly honest.

No I’m not really the kind of person who will say sorry over nothing, only in small-scale situations where it doesn’t matter much. My goal to stop apologizing has more to do with the amount of space I take up in the world. I find myself trying to make me and the impact I have on situations and people smaller than maybe it should or at least could be. I tend to minimize my own wishes and needs in favor of others. I do this for several reasons I can think of: to please others, to avoid conflict, because others are better at expressing their wishes than me, maybe because I tend to undervalue myself at times.

I don’t want to do this anymore. I feel that it makes me unhappy and that’s not good. As long as I am feeling that I am doing the right thing, and not hurting anyone deliberately, I think I should refrain from apologizing.

This does not mean that I can’t use the phrase ‘I’m sorry’ anymore because it also expresses regrets in other instances, such as when someone is in pain or something bad has happened. Even if it is not within my power to do something about it, I will still feel sorry about it. But this is a different kind of ‘sorry’ altogether.

with the fact that sometimes I am going to upset people, and ok, sometimes I will have to apologise, but stuff doing so when I’m not the one at fault.

I think I can mark this off as done.

i tend to apologize for silly things like “not getting xmas cards out this year” (i have 3 kids and 2 jobs) or other things that don’t warrant an apology. I have to stop being so hard on myself and giving myself a little slack.

I have decided – I’m a b$#^^ and sometimes I *need to apologize. However I have learned to stop apologizing when I don’t need to. So I think this goal is finished. Good luck all!

I never intended to stop asking for forgiveness, I do that and always will, but what I intended to stop and feel I’ve made evident progress in stopping is the business of saying “I’m sorry” for everything when either a)it’s not my fault and b)there is a better way of expressing it. Now, if I feel empathy I don’t say “I’m sorry” instead I say “I understand” – it’s much better… even when I do feel that I should ask for someone’s forgiveness I instead will either ask for forgiveness or state that “I apologize” somehow it’s not construed the same as saying “I’m sorry” – I don’t know what it is about those two words “I’m sorry” but whenever you say that people take it to mean that you think you’re a sorry son of a b, that you’re weak and taking blame for everything. Words are powerful, changing how I express myself is important. That’s what I’ve learned.