He and I have been together for 3 years and he is an extremely great guy but he is just not for me! I like him more like a friend and I have met someone else. He was just a rebound guy. I came out of one relationshipa and ran straight into his arms. He’s been great but I am ready to be independent; I live with him. I also want to have children now and he doesn’t. He keeps giving me all of these lame excuses. I have tried to break up with him since we met but he gives me those big puppy eyes and that long face and hooks me right back in. He has even cried and I mean cried when I even mentioned not being together anymore. I feeel so alone in this shit! My family loves him to death and all they want is for us to stay together. They could care less about my feelings but I feel I need to do what I have to do!
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How to break up with my boyfriend
It made me
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 "I did it."
How I did it: I sat down and wrote a long letter to him, starting with all the things I have learned from him, what I appreciated about him, how he's helped me grow, and explained how I have changed since we started dating, thanks in part to him loving me, being there for me and helping me through some very tough times. I explained how we had be growing apart for a while, headed in different direction, and expressed the sincere desire that he meet a woman that would be a better match for him. I told him that I would really miss him as a friend but that we should not talk for a while and then maybe be friends in the future if we are able to. We hugged for a minute or two and he didnt want to let go. He made a couple of comments to try to provoke a fight but I didnt bite. He tried to kiss me. He was really sad. I just said thanks for everything and put my hand on his shoulder and rubbed it, then walked away, got in my car and drove off. He threw a banana peel on my windshield! Lessons & tips: Write a detailed break up letter to get really clear on why you want to break up and also to acknowledge the other person for the positive impact they have had in your life. Then hold onto it for a few days to make sure you still feel the same way and its not just impulsive. Then tell him "we need to talk". If he pressures you to explain why say "I dont want to talk about it on the phone, Id rather say it in person" Tell them you have been doing some soul-searching and have come to a hard decision. They will know where its heading and it will soften the blow rather than just all at once, cuz they'll be prepared. Also important to meet in a public place so you can keep it chill and leave (as opposed to meeting at your place and getting him to leave if he doesnt want to) I did it at a grocery store parking lot. Then when you see them explain the basic gist of why you are breaking up "I need to be alone for a while" "We've grown apart", whatever is true for you...Then tell them "I wrote you a letter to let you know how much you have meant to me". As hard as it is, look them into the eyes and listen to what they have to say but dont get drawn back in. Be nice, calm and sincere, but keep it brief. Then get the heck outta dodge!
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