Spend more time with friends.

And it takes the pressure off living on my own. Which I can definitely use right now.

It hasnt even been 24 hours since my break up with my guy of eight years. I still haven’t really wrapped my mind around it all. But I know it is going to be really important for me to be around my friends.

We have only put a few here, the list is endless and we don’t want to bore you to death. We’re just proud of how people view us. Over 40% of our new members have joined because they were recommended by a friend. For this we are truly thankful.
“We are happy to hear somebody noticed our “romance”..:) It’s a really simple story, we are both open for new things, and we never scared to change on our life.
....and we are both crazy…:)

We started to change few messages only 6-7weeks ago? on the Tall Singles Dating Website. We were there from different reasons, He was looking for the real one,I (Hajnal) just wanted to try something new way to find somebody, i didn’t hope any luck…. At the first time I (Hajnal) thought He (Ben) is too young, but after few days We both realised we were born for each other. We are both believe in destiny.
So actually in the first week we started to chat and than speak in our all free time on the skype.
For hours….there wasn’t left any secret, we were really honest . We knew it’s going to be something special.
Finally we spent a wonderful week together in Budapest, and we already know it wasn’t only a dream. We both fell in love before the first meet, and it’s getting stronger. I’ll travel to Switzerland on next week as well, and we are ready for our feature….”

”... Best wishes to everyone at Tallloving.com…..........

Some friends rescued me when I was feeling blue. We went to a museum show on Jim Henson.

Make an effort to socialize more…

” A friend is one to whom one may pour out all the contents of one’s heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that the gentlest of hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away.”
- Arabian Proverb

List to track the progress with this goal for 1 year (or until I take off for Nepal) before I mark this as done.

LR – 8/16/09 Arts Festival & Lunch, Great Conversation
BG – 8/15/09 Balboa Island, Lunch at Fashion Island
VW – 8/13/09 e-mail and phone conversation to catch up.
GE – 8/12/09 Lunch @ Rockeys for his B-Day
LR – 8/07/09 Came over for BBQ, then out to movies;
Julie & Julia
JR – 8/06/09 Dinner @ Chilies
RC – 8/24/09 Called, left message. Knowing him, he’s on the boat, on the lake.
DK – 8/25/09 Lunch @ Papaguyos to pick her brain reguarding knees
RC – Yep, he was on the boat. Made a lunch date for 9/3
JF – Had a nice phone conversation today. Will keep in touch. Wants to go to HD&HR with me, if I’m able.

messaged friends on MS & FB 8/28
JR – 8/29 called to wish her a HB.
LR – 8/29/09 went to local carnival together with the family.
DM – 8/30 09 Talked today, will meet for lunch tomorrow. Has so many deep concerns. Needs a friend. Canceled due to fire.
WG, JR, LR, VW, GE, 8/30/09 e-mailed up date on knee.
LS – 8/30/09 messaged, will get together for lunch next week.
DM – 8/31/09 Called out to Station Fire, LA
LR – 8/31/09 Breakfast up at Paula’s Place

RC – 9/3/09 a beautiful conversation and lunch @ Rock-N-Roll Sushi
I think RC should become my life coach.
DK – 9/9/09 called and thanked for refuring new Orthro.
LS – 9/9/09 Lunch @ Rocky’s
BG, VW, JF – e-mailed knee up-date
9/12/09 – Went to see Sophia’s band play @ Rock-n-Roll Sushi
HS – 9/17/09 – Dinner @ Macaroni Grill
HD&HR 9/19/09 – Rail Jam @ Bear Mtn
JR – 9/20/09 – Palm Desert, Lunch and pools ;D

HS – 10/07/09 – Lunch @ Dezi’s, She’s so comforting when I need it ;D
RC – 10/26/09 – Birthday Lunch @ Rock-n-Roll Sushi, yummy roll, so yummy!
LS – 10/28/09 – Birthday lunch @ Rockys
VW – e-mailed to tell her I missed her @ Rehire Day

LS – 11/2/09 – Lake Walk!! Whoo Hooo!!!
HS – 11/2/09 – invited her to walk with LS and I this week ;D
LS – 11/3/09 – Lake walk, another woot, woot!!!
LS – 11/4/09 – Lake walk… man I’ve missed this! Thank God for PT exercises that work!

I’m going to stop worrying about making new friends for now. If more friends come my way that’s great. I already know a lovely bunch of people I can call friends, so what if most of them are male. So I’m changing this goal to “spend more time with friends” (I’m basically dropping the bit about making new friends, that’s how this goal started for me).

Yesterday I had a blast with some friends that came for dinner, first time we meet since we all went away on holidays together in June. One of them does not have a car but wants to buy some plants for her new flat, so I offered to drive her during the week to the gardencenter. Also rang a friend just to say hello, something I seldom do (prefer to send txt msgs), so he was happily surprised. Great way to start the weekend: with a friendly voice happy to hear from me :)

I could get used to this. I loved visiting my friend today! and Balboa Island is beautiful!

e-mailed several friends today. Heard back from one already and found that for the last few months (since April), she’s experienced and been dealing with a knee injury, been called back to China due to her fathers illness, lost her father within that month and has now just returned home to find her work is hassling her about her leave time/pay.

She was so encouraged that I called her… I’m so glad this is now on my list. It spurs me on to keep in better contact.

So after much expectation I met the girl from the language class. The previous times we met we had our partner with us and things were on a lighter note; this time she by herself and spent a lot of time complaining about her partner, her co-workers, her family… it seems most people she knows has major flaws. Apart from her of course. Since one of my many flaws is my inability to stand perfection, I cannot see us becoming friends :)

and he was so thrilled to be treated to lunch and a birthday cake…
It reminded me that acts of friendship and thoughtfulness can be felt by others in big ways. We ourselves oft times do not take the time to stop and imagine the impact of such small acts of kindness. We just do, without thought, thinking it’s just a nice thing to do… We can take our own random acts of kindness for granted, when thankfully, others do not. I think I sometimes don’t appreiciate the fact that “I” matter in the lives of those I love, and that they love me for it as well. So making time for friends makes us all happy…..

.......and that's a very good thing :D

Next assignment….
Going to Balboa Island Friday with V & B to take B out to lunch and visit. It will be the very first time we visit him at his beach home. (We usually see him snowboarding in the winter) ;)