rust me, this can be a daunting task if not approached the right way. Our subconscious mind holds the key to true self confidence. We have to unlock our subconscious and allow it to work in a positive way and not a negative one. Self confidence comes from self belief.
First, get a book… “How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie.
Second, read it…
Third, read this post below.
A quote from Marianne Williamson, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
This is more true than most can even comprehend. I am still learning to unlock the potential of the subconscious mind. But with knowing this, we can already begin to create powerful positive thoughts.
This is done through affirmations. (i.e. self talk, talking to ones self)...
Use notecards, post-its, write them on the bathroom mirror, stick it on your dash in your car. repeat these affirmations daily whenever you see them. Train them into your subconscious mind so that you will begin to “know” them without reading.
Affirmations are affirming what you are striving for. They must be positive and make you feel good.
Something along the lines of… “I am the most positive, outgoing person I know!”, “I am an incredible person that is growing and making friends everyday!!!”
or what ever your goal is… By saying these and pumping yourself up, you are training your subconscious mind to believe in yourself. It may sound hokey, or invalid, but it works and is undeniable….
Also, there are three major things that influence your mind.
What you read…
What you hear…
Who you associate with…
Turn all of these into positive uplifting things and it will change for you faster than you can imagine… Read uplifting material, (Joel Osteen is great for this) Just one book will help. Listen to uplifting audios, (personal development audio like paul j meyer or joel osteens audio books are great) and hang around people that love you and uplift your spirit instead of bring you down…
all of these are huge factors on how you view yourself..
but the number one things is you have to DECIDE to make the change, not just think about or talk about it… you have to DO it…
Jarred Doss
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