"I learned to just let go and realized that nothing material matters as much as your friends and family."
How I did it: I've been with a guy that I love for many years. Even though I had loved htim for so long, I was really afraid to commit and to even move in with him. It felt like I was at risk of losing my independence and my core self-that I would be swallowed up by our relationship.
Last year the guy got a new job and had to be out of state for 2 months. I was all alone. And I realized that I was with him, not because I couldn't be alone or because I was afraid of myself, but because I could be more myself with him than anyone....
Thats what started my whole change in attitude towards others. My family and my guy weren't people who were trying to suffocate me or take away my independence-they were people who loved me and would accept me as myself...
At the same time I was also learning how to open my heart to people who wanted to help me. I was invited to come stay with friends of a friend in a place I was thinking of moving. These people didn't know me, but treated me like family and this was such a hard thing for me to accept. Once I did, I really feel like I was able to give that same love and acceptance to others...
My guy and I are now living together-something I was so nervous about and we are talking about getting married. And I am NOT afraid!
Lessons & tips: Learn to accept others love and acceptance as well as give it.
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Sep 12, 2008, 08:59AM PDT
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