make better friends

I have a lot of friends. But a lot of them seem more like acquaintances than friends. We just don’t click like we should. A lot of that probably has to do with us having very different paths in life…

I want to meet new people, people from all walks of life. Let the friendships which have become mundane and stale go, and obtain new, exciting ones. Might sound like that’s a bit harsh. But, if you had the choice to catch up with some friends at the typical BBQ with the same idle chitter chatter, or go out with some new friends with similar interests to a new place, which would you choose?

Those current friendships which really mean something I’m sure will keep. But it’s time to branch out.

The few friends I have are all living far away from me 90% of the time and I spend a lot of time alone. I would really like to change this but I am just kind of in an in between stage right now. Need inspiration to get-going and meet new people.

I recently found out that this new friend I made who has done a lot for me is considering moving to another state. I was crushed!!! I’m trying hard to be at peace with the possibility of this happening because I know it could be good for her if this is what she decided to do but it will be a HUGE setback for me.

Well, I think I have finally made one new friend who I really like. Now if I can just develop a community of new friends I think I will be able to mark this off my list.

I have met someone who I seem to have a lot in common with. We have talked about getting together for dinner. I become such a chicken when I meet someone I really like. I feel like I’m not good enough or cool enough so I’m never brave enough to make the first step. I want them to invite me then I will really “know” they like me. It’s so silly. I want to change this. I want to be brave enough to ask her to hang out sometime.

There is a girl that I have been reaching out to and trying to become friends with because I need some new friends. I have been real up in the air about how I feel about her. I was really nervous about approaching her to begin with and she as been hot and cold ever since. I have just sort of played along and figured I would see what happens. I have decided I do not want her to be my friend. She is friends with people that I do not want to associate with and she does not treat me the way I want my friends to treat me. It feels good to take control of the situation and for ME to make the decision that I do not want her to be a part of my life instead of waiting around for her to decide that she wants to be my friend.

I think I am attracted to the wrong kind of people for me. I don’t know why. I am very shy so I tend to be drawn to people who are more outgoing. These people tend to be more outspoken and they don’t treat me as well. Yet, when I have the oppotunity to be friends with people who I KNOW will be good friends and treat me well, people who are more quiet and reserved they just seem boring to me and I shy away. I also am having a hard time because I have had oppotunities quite a lot recently to get to know new people. If I am not 100% sure about them I get real panicky and pull away because I’m afraid if I let them into my life and then decide I don’t want them in my life I won’t know how to get rid of them.

Yes. After a few months I have had a change of perspectives about what “better friends” are. And yes, there are friends who I consider to be just friends who I’am hardly close with and I also have friends who I can be myself with. Apparently, I really am shy and can’t really be comfortable with some people, maybe because I don’t know them too well. But this semester I’ve really got to get to know a lot of my now close friends. :] I think it takes a while for me to loosen up to people. I still wish I could let some hidden parts of my personality show to them, things that they probably would think I’am not at all. heh.

I met a friend of a friend who is hopefully getting a new job and moving to my town. We hung out and had a good time so hopefully he WILL get the job and we can become friends. I have also asked 2 new people to hang out recently which is very unlike me. One person is always busy and the other told me to call sometime when I’m free. I DID call when I was free! Ha ha! Anyway, I don’t know if those 2 will pan out but I’m really trying.

I have started becoming friends with my cousin’s fiance. We have been hanging out a lot. She is very nice and fun to talk to but we are SOOOO different. I don’t think she really “gets” me. We are complete opposites in so many ways. I think this is why making friends is hard for me. I feel so different from most people. Someone told me that I am probably not as different as I think I am and there are plenty of people out there like me but I sure don’t know where they are!