gossip less

tough one. did it, not quite sure if it was worth it. a good gossip is never a bad thing. i guess.

Yeah, I do this without realizing it. I mean I don’t talk about bad stuff behind people’s backs, but I just really like talking about certain people and what happens to them. (For example, someone I admire, or my crush!)
So I should really stop and keep news I hear from these people to myself!! Or at least only share with only a FEW (like 3 max) close friends!! Cuz I probably wouldn’t be to happy to hear my life’s story circulating among friends and people I don’t know!

I’ve noticed that I’ve gotten especially bad about this at work. Sadly, it seems that sometimes the only things you have to talk about with certain people is gossip. Not that I can currently talk, because I’m clearly helping to fuel the fire (with gasoline and matches, lately).

I’d really like to be a nicer person generally, and definitely not the person that uses everyone else to crack jokes or tell stories. I think I’m better than that. Or that I can be, anyway.

Well “nice” isn’t really the word, more like “I’m spreading the news, but not saying anything nasty to go with it.” I know it’s still kinda wrong, but I do believe I’m getting somewhere.

In my religion we believe that gossiping is like eating your brother/sister’s flesh. I have been there done this and been hit back. I had it with my big mouth and started to watch myself every time I talk. I also started isolating myself from those “evil” gossipers who have nothing better to do. Off course since then my friends have been reduced by 3 quarters and only true ones remained my friends. It feels much better and honest. At least now I can look straight into people’s eyes without the guilt of “oh shit you are nice and I said shit about you”.. By the next few months I want to make sure I have reduced my gossiping by 99.9% and the 1 percent remains clean “nondestructive” gossip that can actually help and not destroy.

I’ve I’m doing much better at this since I’ve distanced myself from a couple of friends of mine.I’ve never been a hugh gossip queen, however I found that I gossip with certain ppl because that is all they know how to do and I just give in to make them happy. Whenever these ppl talked to me it would only be to gossip about someone else and I realized that if they’re gossiping about their other friends, they must be gossiping about me too.
I have other friends where there is no drama and being with them is more fun because I’m not constantly worrying about what they might go tell other ppl about me. I just hope these friends don’t see me as a gossip queen because of who I associated myself with in the past. Now when ppl try to gossip I just sit there and pretend to listen and change the subject if I get the chance. I always remember that this person could be going behind my back and saying things about me, be it the truth or not.
It’s tough because girls can be such bitches, even when they are supposedly your best friends. I’ve gone through it all in high school and I’ve realized its not worth it to keep friends that will do that to you. I’ve grown up alot since then and won’t fall into it again. I’m proud of how I came out from it all and won’t let those ppl who call themselves friends to bring me down.

i’m came to realize theirs good and bad in everyone and no one should be judged for it. just look at the person by all the good things they’ve done and respect them for it. no one wants to be talked badly about…

gossiping is very bad and harmful to the mind. I unfortunately am a “slave” to it. As i am studying Buddhism it is said to not engage in idol gossip. And i understand why but i cannot help it plus i love reading the gossip mags… ahh its a problem.

This will take some serious restraint!

i always end up regretting it, it can be so cruel sometimes things seem to slip out!