I told her she was beautiful in her cerise dress. 5 days ago
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I would never wear shoes like that, but she carried them off just fine. 5 days ago
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Stretch goal: 6 months 1 week ago
It is getting easier and coming to me more naturally every time. Not hard at all 4 weeks ago
How I did it: I went to the grocery store and just went for it. Talked to a lady about her earrings, showed her where the cottage cheese she was looking for was at. Then in line, I told a gal her brussell sprouts looked good. We struck up a conversation with the gal behind us and the checker about the healthy benefits of coconut oil. We were social and inclusive. Read how I did it… 1 month ago
this is sooo worth it, and I need to do it a lot more. I remembered how happy I was when someone did this to me. I loved doing it even more. 4 months ago
Seems so easy to do, yet I rarely (if ever) see strangers complementing each other. I just think one compliment (which is basically one sentence to say) might make the receiving person happy for the entire day. Appears to be a good deal. Let’s give it a shot. 7 months ago
- 1st situation, 1 year ago: I saw this really attractive man at a networking event. I asked my friend next to me to introduce me. Once I was introduced, I just said "...I just wanted to meet you. I think you are really attractive.
- He said "thanks. You are really attractive too, but I am married." And then we chatted a bit about our jobs.
- I felt a bit embarrassed, walked away. When I came home, I told a friend about it and she said "he was probably really flattered."
- That night, I went out dancing. I felt so alive and attractive. Then the next day, I just felt very sad, like there is something really missing in my life.
- 2nd situation, 2 months ago: I saw a drop dead gorgeous young man at the gym, with white tank top, tattoos, fit, and he was walking so confidently.
- I did a couple of double takes. Later just walked up to him and said "don't mean to bother you, but I think you are really attractive."
- He said "it's okay. You are not bothering me. Thank you."
- Connecting w/ him felt really good. He seemed flattered.
- In both cases, my life was just too serious. These situations just showed that there is something really missing in my life: fun and passion.
- In both cases, I think they were flattered. I don't think men get very many compliments like this.
Well, I’ve figured out how I’m most comfortable complimenting a stranger…and that is by not over-fixating on it. I don’t compliment strangers on a regular basis, but it does happen naturally, when I’m not striving for it in a “must cross it off my list” kind of way! =P I must say I’m happy enough with this, and feel that I can now cross it off my list!
It often starts out with an urge to simply talk to a stranger, for example, when I want to ask them about something (like the book they’re reading, something they’re wearing, etc.) and then that naturally leads to a compliment. When I first embarked on this goal of complimenting a stranger, I spent many a commute trying to work up the courage to say something, fighting with myself about whether saying something would be weird/creepy, when might be the best moment to do it, and then not saying anything at all. (Honestly, there are much better things to be thinking about!)
In the end, not actively thinking about it at all, and instead, just going about my daily life keeping my eyes open for what catches my interest and curiosity was the secret. This method may not lead to lots and lots of compliments to strangers, but it works for me and feels a lot less contrived and forced. =) Yay! 10 months ago