So I got accepted into this college that I really wanted to go to however my family has other plans for me.They blindsided me,went to my guidance counselor,and told her that I’m not ready to dorm by myself and that I should commute and find another school.How about no! I worked really hard to get into the school I want to go to and they said financially I’m on my own because it’s not what they agree with.My guidance counselor said maybe I should have a backup but hello I got accepted.This really upset me and I have a meeting with my family and my guidance counselor very soon.I know in my heart there is no where else I would rather go. Isn’t it my choice? My future? What happened to that? I didn’t go to school for all these years for nothing.And I have my mind made up.How do I say no without being disrespectful? 2 weeks ago
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Last night I let myself get wicked into something again. All I had to do was stop her or say hey I don’t have any money what should I do. But did I? No, I just did was they wanted me to. Don’t get me wrong it was a good experience but nonetheless, I lost more money than I wanted to. Anyhow, I have to stop those things from happening to me. 3 weeks ago
That is my biggest thing. Learning to say that I am not saying no just to shut you down but to express that I have needs too and if you take into consideration my needs as well we are good. 4 weeks ago
The problem wasn’t saying NO, but the underlying issues that stopped me from doing so.
1. The terrible thirst for self-destruction. I couldn’t say no to anything including sex & drugs & rock’n’roll, a little binge-purge/ starving-myself episode, or a mere 30 cigarettes per day. Until I started to care, a little, about myself. And then a little more…
I can now. I do now. Almost every time.
2. The unconscious fear that you’ll be loved less for needing more (or giving less). I guess most of us live with this fear to some degree, obliviously. Giving more of ourselves than we’d wish we did, concomitantly growing angry for doing so…
But no more, for me. I chose to believe it’s exactly my needs and flaws that make me different. Lovely and loveable. I chose to be real.2 months ago
I am getting better but need to learn to say NO and not give in! 3 months ago