"I learned that most waking moments offer a gift to be received. The gift is usually right in front of our eyes, but often we look past the offering because we are distracted with other more unimportant things"
How I did it: Wow, this goal encompasses so much. I learned to enjoy the process of life by not judging myself too harshly. I began to realize that even though others may not condone some of my choices, still I had to make decisions based on the truth that is inside of my heart and stand by those decisions.
And I knew that surely, if I live only to please other people, then an integral part of who I really am would finally give up and die inside. There came a day when I saw that in order to preserve my true self, that I could not ignore the true desires of my heart.
No longer am I completely enveloped with worrying only about how everybody else feels. This continual act of self-sacrifice for many, many years in an effort to please everyone else, except me, caused me to lose a key part of my identity.
It was sad to see the effect my unhealthy behavior had on my health, my mood, and my outlook, all in the name of not "wanting to be selfish". Finally I understood that only by being selfish to a degree, and taking care of me, was I able to offer anything genuine to others. At last I understood that I couldn't neglect myself and expect to be any good to anybody else.
By being an authentic person within, I have more to give and can take in life and definitely enjoy the process.
Lessons & tips: Tell yourself the truth.
Do not buy into the idea that most of the time, you have to be a martyr.
Be OK with getting angry at other people and in your own time, releasing that anger.
Give yourself permission to get to know the desires of your heart and gradually become strong enough to act upon your true feelings.
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