Wow, i am so seriously sick of alcoholics, I just get yelled at and told all those things for an hour. All because I voiced my opinion (2 weeks ago) and got somewhat frustrated/upset that my opinion was disregarded and I was treated like an idiot. This woman rang to say she was coming to get her stuff, so i asked her to wait until my mum got back from her weekend away. “oh no, your mum said i could come whenever I want, (which I wasn’t told about) you have no right its not your property” she said, she then went on to say how me and her grandson (a seven year old) had abused and verbally attacked my mother.
My opinion was that they shouldn’t smoke and that they especially shouldn’t smoke around me or her grandson but i was treated like an imbecile by her. Her grandson also happened to agree with my opinion and voiced that, and to her it was verbal abuse. she then hung up on me, and it must be the Taurian in me or something but I absolutely hate it when people don’t hear my point of view. So i rang her back and told her that she had bullied me about letting her come over to pick up the stuff and that all i wanted her to do was let me know when she was coming to get her stuff (she was picking up her stuff because I baited her/bullied her which made her feel uncomfortable) which is untrue. she hung up on me twice more (the last time i didn’t bother ringing her back) I asked if she had been drinking and she called me an arsehole. which confirmed for me that she had been. She then yelled at me some more (repeating everything she had already said) calling her grandson a (please excuse my use of this word I absolutely hate it) cunt because he once refused to open our gate for her. anyway you get the point. She also said I was the one with the problem, not listening to her, that i needed help and whatever that I was just a freeloader. (says the person who put a shed on someone elses property so they could put their stuff in it how ironic/cliche whatever you get the point). Also that I was the one abusing and bullying her.
I rang mum and told her what was going on, obviously very upset. And told her this was the last time that I was getting abused by one of her alcoholics (previously been verbally abused by the same woman (so has my mum) and by my mums on again/off again boyfriend, who also threatened to punch my brother). And I also pretty much told my mum that she is to stop smoking (i usually just say its disgusting and that she shouldn’t do it, not tell her that she can’t). (She isn’t actually addicted to them but smokes them when other people who do are around, if they are rollies) My grandfather (whom i loved) died of lung cancer (most likely from smoking) and it was horrible seeing him like that in a hospital bed pretty much nothing there of him when he used to be so cuddly, lively, friendly, spriteful and wonderful. Not that he wasn’t lively or friendly, but you get the point. I told her that I saw what it did to him and I wasn’t going to let her do it to her.
Anyway then the woman rang my mum and my mum told her that their friendship was over and that she wasn’t allowed to come around to our place anymore. That she would take the stuff to her. the woman then said she hadn’t said any of those things nor had she yelled and that I was the one that was being abusive. Know I am more then happy to admit (after the heat of the moment) when I have been yelling to someone/or that i genuinely don’t remember it. but i do not lie and say its all the other persons fault. by the way her grandson was still up at 11 at night and most likely heard all of this. Mum told me if she comes over to just ring the police on the non-emergancy line. which is what i will do.
I suppose there is a valuable lesson in there somewhere, my heart breaks for j, he has already been through enough shit in his 7 years life (and I mean some dark stuff) without taking on her problems as well.
I can say i am allot of things but i am positive that i am not any of those four things in the title.
Sorry for my rant but I couldn’t ring my bestfriend. 15 months ago