get comfortable going out by myself

Ok – I’m going to set a date to go to the movies by myself. The next time my son goes with his father or friends, I am going to go to the movies and see something I want to see.

No, I actually relish being alone. It’s perfect time to meditate and just clear my mind. I think this is one thing we need to learn: enjoy one’s own company.

I am fairly comfortable going out by myself now. Yesterday I went up to a rooftop bar in the afternoon to watch the sunset and do a bit of people watching, and I didn’t even give it a second thought. :)

So I went out on my own to the bar, and it was about an hour before I met up with my boyfriend. It was quite refreshing to sit by myself and although I didn’t make a huge effort to get into conversation with anyone, I ended up chatting with a few new people so it was a good experience.
It’s something I want to keep trying, but I might stay away from bars for a bit and stick to cafes and pubs. It was great to step completely out of my comfort zone, and now at least I know I can do it. The world didn’t end and I didn’t get any funny looks. Not a huge success, but I feel it was a healthy start and is definitely worth doing.

I’m going to thing at a ‘digital arts bar’ tomorrow… weird place with interactive digital urinals apparently.
I’ll be on my own for at least an hour until someone I know turns up. I’m sure there’ll be lots of oh-so-trendy and kooky people in big groups there, but I’m going to have a drink, have a sit down, enjoy the atmosphere, take my sketchbook, do some people watching, and just see what happens on my own.
:)

I was so co-dependent on other people in my early 20s. I came from a large, tight-knit family, and we were kinda poor, but we always did everything together. We would all go to Wal-Mart together. By the time I was 25 I realized I could not do anything alone. I would allow people into my life who were not the greatest of people, all because I was terrified of being alone. I developed serious social anxiety, to the point where I didn’t want to go to the grocery store alone because I might have to talk to the checkout person. About five years ago I started working on being comfortable going places alone. I started with baby steps- things like going to stores, going clothes shopping, and eating out at a restaurant. At first I felt like everyone was looking at me, or wondering why I was alone. I went to a local beer joint by myself several times, andI found I really enjoying having the freedom to do what I wanted, and leave when I wanted. I also discovered that other people seem more open and friendly when you are by yourself. More strangers struck up conversation with me. I guess people in groups are intimidating, but a person alone is not as intimidating. A few times at restaurants waiters and waitresses even made comments or asked my why I was alone. I felt empowered when I answered them that I was alone because I wanted to be alone. The biggest thing for me was when I got a new job 6 months ago working for the state, and they sent me to a city 5 hours away for training. I went for four days- by myself. I drove myself there alone, and it was the furthest I have driven by myself. I had my own hotel room for the first time in my life, and I knew absolutely no one in the town. I had to eat every meal alone at restaurants I had never been to before. I read books down by the pool at the hotel by myself. I went to a movie by myself one day when they ended training a little early. I ended up having a great time by myself. This was completely worht doing. I feel much more empowered and independent, and I don’t get as nervous in social situations now too. It has been liberating!

there just isnt any places i feel like venturing that are public is all.

I don’t really like to go shopping by myself, because I can get to doubting how something looks good on me. A few days ago, I was going to buy grey jeans because they do look good/cute, but I know it doesn’t quite match other stuff I have, mainly the 1 jacket that I have and wear like every day. In other ways of going out, I don’t like to look like I have nothing to do (a flaw, I know). I am comfortable standing around listening to my music though, interestingly enough.

I love doing things by myself! I agree with some of the enteries! Shopping is fun alone I can spend forever in any section of the store! Concerts are the best though! I don’t have to worry about dragging someone along in the crowd so they don’t get lost! It can be awkward cause I’m shy and never hardly talk to new people when I’m by myself. So it can get lonely waiting in line but I’m still comfortable and have great times!

I have this weird thing about going out by myself… I just don’t like it. I’ll do it only when I have to… otherwise I take people with me.

I have got to leave the house by myself more often.. my life would be more productive.