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lyzzib feeling up to it

Because im not 2 months ago

Why would i want to be someone else anyways?



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comparisons.. 2 months ago

i always say or think things like im not as good as her or he’s better at that than me…. but there will almost always be someone who is better that you at something so its not good for my self esteem….



Sometimes I do better than other times 4 months ago

Sometimes I still get caught up. Sometimes my competitive nature rears its ugly head. And I say ugly head because it really isn’t the best side of me. I don’t feel good when I’ve been comparing myself. Even when I come out “ahead”, it’s a lousy way to act…feeling superior to others because I have this or that skill over them. That’s just kind of pathetic, isn’t it?
Then once I realize I’ve been basing my opinion of myself off other people, I feel ashamed and bad about it. And I hate how I act when I’m trying to prove something. I think it makes me kind of an asshole. So I’d like to stop. But, I know I’m not always going to be perfect at this and there are people who will be able to get under my skin. So all I can do is pick myself up, dust myself off and keep trying. Ugh, I guess I just wish I were a better, kinder, more loving and accepting person. Maybe admitting how awful I’ve been will help?



the hardest walk 5 months ago

This will probably be the hardest one (and I said that growing out my natural hair colour will be hard, bah!). Even when writing entries for my goals, I can not stop reading what others have said about the same goal (read: comparing my entry with the others).
I want always to be the wittiest and brightest, of course. :P
Seems like I still have a loooooong way to go..



I'm doing a terrible job! You're all so much more advanced in this! 6 months ago

hurr hurr hurr



Doing it again 6 months ago

I caught myself falling into it again. Person by person, one at a time, comparing and comparing… sometimes feeling good, sometimes feeling inferior.
But once I realized it, I was able to stop, and let it go, just tried to appreciate the good things about ME, stand-alone, instead of in comparison to someone else. I’m sure the more I do that the better I’m going to get at it, the sooner I’ll catch it, and so on.



Challenge 6 months ago

I am suddenly facing a situation where I have to resist my need to compare. A friend is very angry at me when I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong, and I have to see how to respond kindly but firmly.

And really I don’t want to fall back into the pattern of seeing who’s better off, who’s doing worse, who is right and who is wrong. It’s not a competition and there’s room for every single one of us. I have a right to my feelings but I don’t want to keep on feeding the negtivity loop.



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need to love myself 7 months ago

i hate the way i feel because i look at someone else and want to be like them. i just want to be comfortable with myself. i feel if i dont do this its going to be a real problem for me in the future. theres people who i always feel i need to prove something to. i wish i didnt care.



There is one person. Maybe two or three. 7 months ago

For simplicity’s sake, let’s say it’s one person who I have to be around from time to time, who acts really condescending and, well, just generally superior to me. The thing that bothers me is that I allow myself to get drawn into it. I do start to feel like I have something to prove… to show that they ARE NOT better than me!! Then I get mad at myself for allowing someone else’s attitude to affect my image of myself and my behavior. To draw me into a competitive frame of mind… for what? What I really need to do is to take a deep breath, relax, and realize it’s all about THEIR insecurities, not anything that’s actually “wrong” with ME. Stop taking that stuff on to myself!



:D 8 months ago

Definitly, understand that I am a single person and this is my charm.



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Apathetic_Lover asks, “How can i stop comparing myself to other people?”
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