Improve my marriage

Today I emailed him what I saw as his sexiest characteristics!
His smile/laughter
His walk
3rd place tie between his arms & legs.

I feel a lot better after making this choice to start working on my marriage. I feel like I am already making better choices and treating my husband better, being less cranky etc. I made more of an effort to spend time with him this week.

I am often putting my husband last, behind the kids, work, school and housework. It’s not right because this is the person you will spend your whole life with, jobs come and go, the house will always get dirty, the kids will even grow up and move away – but your spouce and you will always have each other. I need to spend more time with my husband and take more time to worry about what he wants.

It makes this very rough. Have been together for 20 yrs, 1 spec. needs child. Health and anger issues, not much support. Stress city for us most days! God helps, though. Any thoughts?

Marriage is not the be all end all. It is the beginning of another kind of life.
My husband just recently told me what was wrong with us. I need to love myself first and then it will be easier to understand why we are not happy together.

We continue to go to counseling. As soon as I start to see improvement something happens and I feel like we take 2 steps backwards. I don’t know where any of this is going. As of now, all I want is to make the holidays as wonderful as they can be given the circumstances.

yeah – next year i’ll be a father!
I’m very happy – though my wife is sometimes still unsure …
But since we know that she’s pregnant (she’s in the 4th month) everything seems to be more harmonic. We often discuss possible names for the baby and smile about the ultrasonic scans.
We even bought a little rattle :-) Everything will be great!

our 25th wedding anniversary….I’m up for 25 more!

I’m not sure on what to say. I want my marriage to work, but the pains of the past seem to weigh down so heavily on today. I want it, but my wife is unsure. I wish that I had the answers. I wish that I could make everything right. I believe she still loves me but that could just be my hopeful thingking. I feel so lost, so empty.

We have started counseling. Only had 2 sessions, so the verdict is still out. I certainly don’t want to go into all the details of my marriage here on the world wide web. But, I will say this past year has been a very difficult one. I cannot stay in a marriage that functions the way this one does. But, I look around this house and cannot even begin to fathom leaving. I don’t want to be a single mom, or juggle the kids, or try to finance two seperate households. As hard as fixing the marriage is going to be, divorce would be that much harder. So, I am doing everything in my power (and he is too) to make this a functioning marriage and family. Keeping our fingers crossed….