get my name OFF of the mormon church's members list

I want my name off this bloody list, i am sick of them, the only reason they are able to claim they are a massive church is by keepin people like us on the list, we want off, NOW!!!

I know that taking your name out of the church records is a big deal for many people. Everyone comes out of the Mormon church at their own speed. When I was finally ready to do it…I was ready. I hand delivered a variant of the letter you can find here http://www.mormonnomore.com/

I just moved and I walked into my local Mormon chapel on Sunday and handed the letter to the first bishop I saw. I smiled and shook his hand like I was a missionary. When faced with someone smiling and obviously at peace with resigning from the church, the bishop didn’t have much choice but to smile back and sign off on the letter. I asked him for a copy of the letter with his signature on it to prove he had recieved it. Within a week I had a letter from the local stake president saying that if I did not recind my request within 30 days the church would process my request. I called the church records department 60 days later and confirmed with them that my name was no longer on official Mormon church records. There are three reasons why I think it went so smooth for me. 1. I hand delivered it and made him give me a copy with his signature on it. 2. I gave the bishop all the information I could about my last ward and bishop…without that info it takes forever for the request to go through from a place outside your home area. 3. I was not at my old address for the 6 sets of missionaries and ward members who came knocking within days of my resignation letter arriving in Utah. I know the person who lives in my old house and even though my letter specifically stated that I wanted to be contacted by no one from the church, he told me that four sets of missionaries and two sets of bishopric members came to the door over 4 days. He finally told them that if anyone came back he would get physical with them. If I was still living there, I would have raised holy hell with my bishop for the total disrespect of my privacy. As it ended up I dropped the issue because they did process my request and I didn’t have to deal with them personally at my door. It still sorta bugs me that they didn’t respect my request to be left alone though. I even put it in bold on my resignation letter.

It’s worth doing. I felt a sense of relief when I heard the records department confirm that my name had been removed. A lot of people question doing it or not…do it. It is such a wonderful sense of closure when you are finally ready to take that step. As long as you are happy and confident in your decision, anyone you talk to about it will sense that and not be too combative. That bishop tried to talk to me for a few minutes but I just kept smiling and gently reassuring him that I was extremley comfortable with my decision to leave. For some reason Mormons expect to see some sort of saddness in people who are leaving the church. And, to be honest, I think it throws them off when you are at peace with your life without the church. Take your name off the Mormon church records when you are peace with your life…when you can smile as you hand that letter to the bishop.

I finally got an actuall letter confirming my name removal. I folded it up and put it between the last pages of my book of remembrance that my parents gave me at my baptism when I was eight.

This was definitely worth doing. I was a member since birth and over the last year began to research the church’s dubious history, which culminated in resigning my membership. Kathy at mormonnomore.com is extremely helpful in outlining the steps needed to get your name off the church’s records.

I’m not going to bad mouth it…I spent a fair percentage of life it it. But to be honest it was because my parents converted and we live in Utah. It’s not as hard as they like to make it seem to get your name off…I’m in the process of writing my “resignation” now.