Forgive my dad

my dads not like everyone elses my dad didn’t drink or smoke or anything like that….I always thought he walked out on me wen I was jus a baby but come to find out he tryed to touch my older sister and I found out becuz he tryed to do it to me!! He wasn’t a part of my life for a long time and wen he does come in my life he jus wants sumthing other then to b a dad!! It kills cuz I always wanted to b daddyS oil girl but that will never happen, and that makes me wanna cry and I hate wen I see father daughter dances cuz I no that will never b me!!! But I forgive him becuz I’m only holdin my self bad by bein so mad at him that I can’t move on and I dnt want that no more I wanna b able to tlk to him with out being mad at him and thinkin about it!!!! but idk if I’m really ready to yet wat should I do?????

My dad was a drug addict all my life, and drank a lot as well. I used to hold so much anger toward him, and I hated him. Now I live with my mom, they are divorced, and he’s in treatment. My brother, mom, and I go to therapy and Alateen/Al-Anon. I don’t hate him anymore, and I’ve started to accept that he had a disease, but I’m not sure if I’ve forgiven him 100%. I want to forgive him, and maybe someday have a good relationship with my dad.

For what you did,
I resent you.
Not because I hate you, but because I loved you so much.

Tough One.

And it’s not good for me to hold onto grudges. It just creates bitterness in my life that doesn’t need to be there.

It wasn’t easy but I’ve done it!

EFT & TAT helped!!
www.emofree.com & www.tatlife.com – free pdf manuals on both!

We also talked a lot about some of the old stuff…

Still, occasional grudges come up, but I feel we have a much better relationship in general!!

I’m sending him a Father’s Day card, so this is a first step.

Although I think I’m doing it because I want to be bigger than him, not because I want to actually wish him Happy Father’s Day.

Long ago, and I know it. He didn’t forgive me.

OK so I’ve been meditating on forgiving my dad. After thinking about it, I think that my problem is not so much with forgiving my dad for his shortcomings as a father, but I need to stop equating his attentions to me with is love for me.

I once heard a saying – that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

Hmmmm…...food for thought.

...two days after yours, Dad. Yet, you cannot remember it to save your life!

This year, you out-did yourself. You remembered to forget my birthday, and then TOLD me about it 4 days before my actual birthday!

I know I could have it a lot worse, but the little things that you don’t do are some of the more important things in my world.

I also know that I will never get over being hurt by this stuff until I forgive you for doing it.