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1 week ago
not today. someday. when i am ready.
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How to forgive my dad
It made me
relieved
 "Is that all he wanted?"
How I did it: I listened to what he said. When he said you kids never listen to me I always felt defensive like we were no good to him. I had to hear what he was really saying. He said he tried to teach us but we would never learn. Was he implying that we were stupid? OK Dad.... I get it... he has cancer.... he thought his kids shouldn't smoke because dear ol' dad is going through it! So I heard him, and I quit. He nearly cried, I never heard him sound so happy in his life. He told me that it was the greatest accomplishment of my life and he freely told me he loved me, which he never, ever does...he sounded like a different person. I thanked him and let him know that because of him it would be easy to never smoke again. Lessons & tips: Listen Resources: Allen Carr Easyway method to quitting smoking |
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It made me
Depressed 
How I did it: I haven't seen or heard from my Dad in four years. It really hurt when we left because I wasn't just leaving my friends behind, we were leaving my Dad. Ever since then I've blamed it all on him, that he wasn't being good to my mother, he didn't care about me enough to stop drinking, that he didn't care about me enough to stay. Ever since then I've been trying to think about his point of view, and what he's been going through ever since. I… Read how I did it…
It made me
proud 
How I did it: The Lord listens to my sins whenever I step into the confessional. He forgives me at all costs, no matter what I have done. He made me into a new person and I am now able to look at my dad and see love. I can forgive him for hurting my mother and I, even though he probably still is. I continue to have hope in him that he will be able to change. Even if there are things to be mad at your dad for, always forgive him, he is your father and y… Read how I did it…
ConcreteAngel18 cut her ex off completely, it stings a little, but I know I need it.
It made me
upset
How I did it: For 7 years, I've gone without a dad. I hid in my room on every father's day and wished I had someone else's life....I'd pretend it didn't bother me to watch the brides having a "father daughter dance" at weddings, even though I knew I'd never have a chance at my own. My family seperated, both sisters choosing only one parent, leaving me to be the tie breaker. If I chose to see one parent, I'd lose the other. I was losing my heart piece b… Read how I did it…
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mercedbrat15 is goin to church cuz I need sum god then chillin with my friends!!
I've try so many times
3 months ago
my dads not like everyone elses my dad didn’t drink or smoke or anything like that….I always thought he walked out on me wen I was jus a baby but come to find out he tryed to touch my older sister and I found out becuz he tryed to do it to me!! He wasn’t a part of my life for a long time and wen he does come in my life he jus wants sumthing other then to b a dad!! It kills cuz I always wanted to b daddyS oil girl but that will never happen, and that makes me wanna cry and I hate wen I see father daughter dances cuz I no that will never b me!!! But I forgive him becuz I’m only holdin my self bad by bein so mad at him that I can’t move on and I dnt want that no more I wanna b able to tlk to him with out being mad at him and thinkin about it!!!! but idk if I’m really ready to yet wat should I do?????
katrinaheartsyoux3 is trying to start over. :)
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4 months ago
My dad was a drug addict all my life, and drank a lot as well. I used to hold so much anger toward him, and I hated him. Now I live with my mom, they are divorced, and he’s in treatment. My brother, mom, and I go to therapy and Alateen/Al-Anon. I don’t hate him anymore, and I’ve started to accept that he had a disease, but I’m not sure if I’ve forgiven him 100%. I want to forgive him, and maybe someday have a good relationship with my dad.
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6 months ago
For what you did,
I resent you.
Not because I hate you, but because I loved you so much.
He's human
1 year ago
And it’s not good for me to hold onto grudges. It just creates bitterness in my life that doesn’t need to be there.
Andreya afraid of Halloween! :)
A Warm 'n Fuzzy Feeling
2 years ago
It wasn’t easy but I’ve done it!
EFT & TAT helped!!
www.emofree.com & www.tatlife.com – free pdf manuals on both!
We also talked a lot about some of the old stuff…
Still, occasional grudges come up, but I feel we have a much better relationship in general!!
Father's Day.
2 years ago
I’m sending him a Father’s Day card, so this is a first step.
Although I think I’m doing it because I want to be bigger than him, not because I want to actually wish him Happy Father’s Day.
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2 years ago
OK so I’ve been meditating on forgiving my dad. After thinking about it, I think that my problem is not so much with forgiving my dad for his shortcomings as a father, but I need to stop equating his attentions to me with is love for me.
I once heard a saying – that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.
Hmmmm…...food for thought.
