My dad was a drug addict all my life, and drank a lot as well. I used to hold so much anger toward him, and I hated him. Now I live with my mom, they are divorced, and he’s in treatment. My brother, mom, and I go to therapy and Alateen/Al-Anon. I don’t hate him anymore, and I’ve started to accept that he had a disease, but I’m not sure if I’ve forgiven him 100%. I want to forgive him, and maybe someday have a good relationship with my dad.
Jul 09, 08:49PM PDT | 0 comments
For what you did,
I resent you.
Not because I hate you, but because I loved you so much.
May 20, 04:39PM PDT | 0 comments
I am a parent now and I still feel like dads little girl when Im with him. I love dad. He’s an ex gang member, drinks, drugs still but I know his better side too. My growing up played a huge part of the person I am today if not all.
I defended dad 100% when people wanted me to except he may have done better. I’ve forgave dad within my heart but keen to see him christmas to show him now. Parenting is the toughest job on earth and the most rewarding.
Dec 08, 01:13PM PST | 0 comments
Nov 14, 01:42PM PST | 0 comments
And it’s not good for me to hold onto grudges. It just creates bitterness in my life that doesn’t need to be there.
Dec 02, 2007, 03:56PM PST | 2 cheers | 1 comment
Andreya has been pampered in a spa today :)
It wasn’t easy but I’ve done it!
EFT & TAT helped!!
www.emofree.com & www.tatlife.com – free pdf manuals on both!
We also talked a lot about some of the old stuff…
Still, occasional grudges come up, but I feel we have a much better relationship in general!!
Sep 23, 2007, 05:41AM PDT | 1 comment
Father's Day.
22 months ago
I’m sending him a Father’s Day card, so this is a first step.
Although I think I’m doing it because I want to be bigger than him, not because I want to actually wish him Happy Father’s Day.
Aug 26, 2007, 11:49PM PDT | 2 cheers | 1 comment
Long ago, and I know it. He didn’t forgive me.
Jun 14, 2007, 11:44PM PDT | 1 cheer | 1 comment
OK so I’ve been meditating on forgiving my dad. After thinking about it, I think that my problem is not so much with forgiving my dad for his shortcomings as a father, but I need to stop equating his attentions to me with is love for me.
I once heard a saying – that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.
Hmmmm…...food for thought.
Apr 24, 2007, 07:01PM PDT | 0 comments
...two days after yours, Dad. Yet, you cannot remember it to save your life!
This year, you out-did yourself. You remembered to forget my birthday, and then TOLD me about it 4 days before my actual birthday!
I know I could have it a lot worse, but the little things that you don’t do are some of the more important things in my world.
I also know that I will never get over being hurt by this stuff until I forgive you for doing it.
Apr 23, 2007, 10:06AM PDT | 1 comment
