Learn to say "NO" without guilt

It is good to say no to people because if you don’t they will keep on using you. I realize it is my choice to do favors for people on my own terms, some people take your kindness for a weakness and when you need something those people are the quick ones to say no, I feel saying no is liberating.

I’ve been a people pleaser most of my life…If I could learn to really take care of myself everyone around me would be better off.

I asked my bf to please stop constantly pressuring me to burn stuff for him. I feel chained to the computer every night, I’m having problems with my burnerso there is a slight backlog, and I don’t need extra pressure and nagging about “did you do this one/that one yet?” I was polite, but let him know how much this annoys and aggravates me.

This is not such a problem for me in the outside world, but I have a TERRIBLE time saying no to my boyfriend. I love love love him but he can be needy and demanding, and throw tantrums if he doesn’t get his way. But the problem is, when I give into him too much it creates serious resentments, I get angry, we fight, it damages our relationship. I do too much for him, it takes up all my time, and then he criticizes me for not having MY goals accomplished, which of course leaves me speechless and shaking with rage. So my responsibility in this is to say no! No honey, no baby, no sweetie, No!

As soon as I did this… I nearly cried I was so happy.

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Im so bad at this !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My friends would call me out anytime of the day and night, most of the times i wouldn’t mind, but other times i’m tired but still agree for the sake of agreeing.
Anywayz, this is going to be on-going, and i’ll be setting my decisions base on my mood.

Whether it be a friend….not a close one borrowing money and not paying me back or my boss asking me to work on a day I REQUESTED off or just something I really dont wanna do I can’t say no! and alot of my good friends tell me time and time again that I need to say NO! because I don’t have to do something if I dont want to… so hopefully I will be able to learn and get some advice from others who are doing this. :-) or exeperiencing the same thing

My ex came over sunday and wanted to give me money towards my rent. He said there was a stipulation. I had to sign off that he paid me all the past support ($4032.00). I told him to take his money and shove it up his ass and get the hell out of my house. I feel damn good.

My Ex-Husband called today and asked me to dinner with him and my daughter when he comes back from work. I said no. And I feel good about it. I don’t want to give her the wrong idea.