not care what others think

it’s the most freeing decision i have ever made – other people’s opinions will come in handy but it will be my opinion that i consider the most and will lead me

I’m doing a lot better at this. I think this past year has been a big test for me as far as having confidence goes. I wasn’t too crazy about some of the people I worked with (“The Harpees” as I liked to call them}, and they weren’t too crazy about me. At first, this bothered me, but then after a while I just let it go.

I can’t say I’ve accomplished this goal quite yet. There is still the occasional criticism that throws me off, but I think in general I’ve pretty much accepted that people are going to say what they want to, good or bad.

noses. Everyone has one, and everyone tends to stick it in other people’s business. WELL I’M SICK OF IT! I want to stop caring about other think/say about me when I’m not around. I mean, who are THEY to judge ME if they never took the time to KNOW me? Yeah… well, I’m gonna do this!!!!!!

Only one word to describe the moment you stop caring about what others think.

this one is really important to me beacuse it’s something i struggle with everyday. i just want to be myself and not have to worry if others are judging me.

I think this year was a big test for me. I faced criticism and I had little support at work, but I made it through the year. I can’t say I’m totally done with this goal, but I think I’ve moved a lot closer. I still seek affirmation from people. And while affirmation is not such a bad thing, I think seeking it is a sign that you still depend on what other people think of you.

My boyfriend says I have a passive personality, which I think he says it just to get me mad, because although I may be mellow at times – I can stand my ground. Well, the other day at work I made the mistake of having lunch with my coworkers. I like to call them “the harpees”. They’re the type of women that have no tact, no compassion, they’re unhappy, and they like to make everybody else unhappy.

Half way through lunch, after listening to them gripe and complain for 20 minutes – I tried to block them out by trying to read a book on evolution. I could not even get through the first paragraph after trying 6 times because their voices kept irritating me, so really I was just staring at the same page pretending to read. One of the aides must have noticed, because she turned to me and started complaining about me and my class! She just started attacking me out of nowhere – it was the weirdest thing. I realized what she was doing, but I remained calm. It would have upset me before but after knowing these women for the past year, their opinion means nothing to me.

Well, after I got back to my class, I thought about what my boyfriend said about me being passive and I decided I was going to prove him wrong. After getting my students settled, I went up to her and asked to speak to her outside. I told her that I felt that what she had said was very critical, and that if she had an issue she should have approached me about it privately. She started to back pedal a mile a minute, claiming she would NEVER be critical of me, and that she was just CONCERNED about me. Of course it was all just a bunch of bullshit – I knew and she knew what she had done, but now that I was calling her on it she was selling me something else.

After confronting her, I continued my day satisfied. Although I don’t care what she or anyone else thinks of me, I’m glad I was assertive. Its unfortunate that people feel they have to act that way – but I have too many important things in my life, to put up with that.

I think this is important to achieve in order to purue your goals without fear of what others may think

Work has been really tough this past year. I was hoping to relax this year, but it has been quite the opposite. One thing that’s been hard at work is the people I work with. They are constantly criticizing everything and anyone around them. Listening to them feels like listening to nails on a chalkboard, its very hard to stand. And I know they talk about me when I’m not around. I am the youngest person at work in my position and I think they are jealous. Its disappointing but I won’t be at this job for too much longer. In less 2 more months it’ll be over and I’ll be moving to WA.

I just hate how they try to get to me. It takes a lot of effort, since my first impulse is to care what others think, but I’m getting better at it. It makes me feel better to know that soon I’ll be somewhere I love, while they’ll still be back here doing the same thing they always do – complaining about everything.

I have been doing what ever I want. People have been telling me things but I don’t listen and i have a better day