be more decisive

i need to get a job! that is my decision!
but lately ive been really considering moving and working abroad.. i have many questions and worries.. can i do this? can i leave my parents and live independently? can i live alone? can i find a job? can i be confident with myself and work? will i work hard? will people like me?

and i dont have a lot of time to do this.. its now or never.

I have obsessive compulsive disorder, and I’m really indecisive. I’m 36, and I’ve never been married….One of the problems is that I frequently find myself torn between 2 guys….this thing of being torn between 2 guys has been a recurring theme in my life now for years. I always tell the truth and tell the guys involved that I can’t decide, but still. I want to settle down and have kids, but I never will if I can’t be more decisive. Right now, I’m trying to decide between 2 job offers…one near my boyfriend, who is ready to settle down and have kids with me, but my boyfriend has done something bad in the past, so I am not sure….and the other one near this guy (just a friend, for now) that I really, really like, who is very honest and has good character, but then I’d be starting all over with a new guy, he says he’d be interested in settling down, too, but I feel less secure about it since it’d be a new relationship….I told both my boyfriend and the other guy that I can’t decide…and I still can’t decide. Please help!!!!!!!!!! Anyone who is good at being decisive….please tell me how to be more decisive!!!!!!!!

oh i spend so much energy thinking about what I have that I don’t want; but god i can’t decide what i DO want!

I found a couple of good articles that ring true with me. They basically state that indecisive people are guided by the opinions/demands of others rather than of themselves. So, we need to silence the “shoulds analysis” and start listening to and trusting our instincts!

http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Build-on-Your-Success-by-Becoming-More-Decisive&id=1619261

http://human-resources-mgt.bestmanagementarticles.com/a-31826-how-to-be-more-decisive-in-business-and-in-life.aspx

Also another department that I am improving in. I am also more comfortable with letting others take the wheel instead of always needing to be in charge. I’m finally doing things for me. I have spent a lot time with a lot of doubts and in the end, have always been let down. I am not ruling out possibilities but I am taking charge and doing the things I need to do for me without hesitation.

i am working on this..

I don’t know :)

So I just decided that I finished this goal (pun intended).

I live alone; I am the only one who makes decisions in my household…which is important. I don’t know how long ago I put this goal on my list, but it was probably because I was going through a lot of changes and I felt weary. That’s no longer the case. I think everyone falters on the big decisions that need to be made and in those times, I do look to others for advice. But, the day to day, business as usual stuff is all me.

i need to make the decision and stick to it and stop being wishy washy like a douche.. i want people to feel confident in the decisions i make (when im asked to make a decision).

.. i decided to add more to this entry since ive been reading other entries where they cant make a decision in what to buy in a grocery store and what not. my indecisiveness is more critical where time and money can be jeopardized and my reputation in terms of being reliable/trustworthy to others.

I think its nice to have the power to chose things in our own lives. Even if our decisions are bad, we may sometimes still have the power to change our circumstances.

Hey, I can almost always give a quick answer now when my boyfriend asks me what kind of tea I’d like – that used to be a tough one =D I’ve ended a friendship that was very important to me, and I’m sure it was the right decision. And I’m going to get a sailboat!