find out the truth of relationship

most of the people talk about ‘Love’. Love is just a thing to do for them , a walking phase, a habit, a dream, a ritual, an excercise without that they feel their life is missing some thrill. But what is love? Does it exist? How it is connected with your daily life? What exactly do we expect from this relationship? Is platonic love possible, then why people crave for closeness? This is a myth for me..Is there anyone who can answer my question?

Recently I had to attend a marriage, where I met most of my relatives. This reunion took place after a long time so we were all glad to meet each other. In the row I found my maternal uncle sitting with my aunt, they had been living in America from the last couple of years with their son and daughter in law. I remembered my uncle’s struggle during their children studies especially to this son, who was excellent in his studies. . My uncle was so much involved in his children studies that his children’s dreams were assimilated as his own dreams, he used to carry them on bicycle to drop their to their coaching respectively and he was always particular to provide best nutritious food. Budget may be out of his pocket. We used to envy his concern because we were not in habit to get this much attention from our parents. When his son settled in his carrier, he took a sigh of relief and told us.. “Now this is the time to take retire from my duties.. Now I will play with my grand children and rest.” We were so happy to watch his relaxed gestures. Then I heard his coming back to India and buying a palatial house (All money from his son settled abroad). Then I heard my aunt had a severe heart attack and she is struggling hard to survive. My uncle is running pillar to post to provide her medicines and for daily checkups in hospital. I wanted to visit them but could not make it. So when I met them I was really concerned.. I asked them why they had to come back to India that too without any company of their children. My Uncle said philosophically.. “During all my life I was busy planning his life now it is his turn so HE IS PLANNING MY DEATH..”

It was not at all loathsome when my closed relative dropped in for few days last weak..I n the past I used to become restless,tensed when I had to face them..while wearing a smile on my face I usually tried to isolate myself from them and always tried to avoid mixing with them..but this time amazingly.. (when) I have learned to live happily..(you know I am practicing this task from last few months),I welcomed them with open heart..prepared several delicacy and give them my company (although I had to take leave from my office)but result was awesome..they were satisfied in extend of pleasureness. I also felt contended..I learned few things from this experience,which I want to share with you my friends:
1. If you are living in happy state..negativity less affects you.
2. If you intends to spread happiness that will come back to you like boomerang.
3. You don’t expect anythings from your relation,you will get lot more other then materialistic things which have short life span.
4. Some sacrifices make you higher in your eyes,you will have honour for yourself.
5. Finally you your happiness will be double and there will be no guilt feeling.

My mom is amazingly affectionate and caring. This week she had to undergo her eye surgery.(she is suffering with acute glaucoma, there is a threat to her eyes, if she doesn’t get her affected eyes operated immediately, she may loose her vision forever). I had to take her to the hospital and accompany her throughout operation. So I went to pick her up. She was visibly nervous, but she smiled boldly when saw me. I was on fast that day, she thought due to general weakness I am looking frail(why all mom think alike..),in spite of her nervous ness and blurred vision, she slipped in her kitchen and within no time she served delicious steaming coffee with great aroma, fresh fried potatoes and other home made assortments. I was so moved by her affectionate care that for some times I could not able to speak. I remember her care when we used to depend on her completely. Now when we are matured enough to take care of our self, she still feels that we are same infants . This love is unconditional, pure, beyond every thing. (Poor mom could not get her eyes operated as she was carrying conjunctivitis infection; she had to come back, next week doctors may fix a date). She is scared but hiding her fear, she won’t let anybody disturbed by her emotions. Moms are God’s best creation. I love you Mom.

Last evening I had to attend a party..there I met my disatant cousins and other relatives..with whom I literaly had no communicationfrom from last 10 years or more..I was standing in a corner just to avoid the crowd,suddenly an old lady emerged..”Don’t you (dare) to recognise me..I happen to be your aunty”..when she found my confused looks,she apperentely felt hurt..”what happend to you dear..whats wrong with your memory..?”I was utterly confused..In my memory I had never met with her nor heard..but I tried to be polite with her..”yes yes Aunty..so nice to see you after long time..How are you?” Encouraged by these words,she said..
“How bad..you never meet me..you should have respect and courtesy to meet relatives time to time..after all relatives help in your bad time..’ I had no choice but to listen her high time monologue..then like a good samaritan one of my cousin came to my rescue and took her away.I heaved a sigh of relief..after sometimes I enquired about that lady..to my surprise I came to know she was not my relative and we had never met before..then I rolled up in laughter. Is it not strange that usually when you meet your relatives after long gap.. you find an invisible power fight. Just a thought.Any experience?

Relative closed or distant are attached with us..they share our sorrow and happiness, but they ar usually bundle of complaints,never satisfied,fussy over every thing,claiming every thing,expecting too much,they exploit emotionally, specially if they are old aged,what do they give in return..? Another load of complaints.. I wonder why do they behave like parasites? Can we dare to get rid of them? No.. never.. they are our near and dear.Any comment?