I’ve been struggling with this issue on and off for many years now. It seemed as if I knew a lot of people, yet I didn’t feel like I KNEW a lot of them, you know what I mean?
Part of the problem is knowing too many people. Not that there is anything wrong with it, but it definitely contributes to not being able to get close to any one person. Parties, bar scenes and large group gatherings are not the best places to get to know someone, and there is certainly a lot of that in the group of people I socialize with.
I had to start prioritizing how I spent my time with people, and with whom I spent that time with. I made efforts to ask small groups and/or individuals to go for coffee or dinner, situations that are conducive to conversation.
In turn, I believe I’ve formed some good friendships. Not “friends” in the loose way that is thrown around liberally these days (social software definitely contributed to this), but real friends that I feel I can count on and want to be there for as well.
