Break tie with those who don't deserve my friendship

I’ve been best friends with my sister for 10 years, but she’s become very self-absorbed and only wants to hang out on her terms. She’s also become very critical of me. I just want to end the relationship and never have to stress out over what she says/does again.

If they don’t make the effort that you’re making to keep the friendship, screw them! A friendship is a two-way street and shouldn’t be one-sided. But, that’s any relationship.

Very worth doing. I am sorry I wasn’t ready to do it before. I am now.

What a strange day to break tie with someone! Well, I did it.

Not so easy when I can’t avoid some of these people. Family meetings have become nightmares because of one person. Well, now it’s up to me to overcome this feeling, and try not to be upset by this person’s presence. I can’t change the facts, but I can change my reactions.

It sounds cold hearted, but It sure relieved me of a ton of stress, and thankless effort on my part. This burdon unloaded, freed me think of more positive and worthwhile peole, thoughts and action to spend my energies on.

Today it was more difficult because I was told that he isn’t in town and didn’t answer the phone. I was in the right mood anyway, so I wrote him a long e-mail.

The content was similar…me talking about the basic principles of friendship, about the past and other stuff. And, yes, that he doesn’t need to waste his time by replying.

I’m not sure if I already feel better. At least I don’t regret it so far. More to come…

Started today with the first one. Told her what I think about her behaviour, how I feel about that, and that I consider our friendship officially dead. I also told her that I won’t respond if she calls or writes.

She was a bit shocked but I didn’t give her much time to prepare an answer. I said what I wanted to say and left right after. Will continue with the next one probably tomorrow…

It’s time to say goodbye to all those who only come when they need something. After wasting soooo much time and money (and getting nothing back in return) it’s time for a change.

I don’t just want to ignore them, I want to tell them straight to their face that I have changed and that consider this “friendship” dead. I’ll better use the time for the real friends.

I know it is said we should give without expecting a return but a little return every now and then wouldn’t hurt… Trust me, real friendship has to be a bidirectional thing!