expand my social circle

I don’t have many things in my life that involve other people, so I’m trying to change that. I’ve got karaoke right now, but that’s it. I work at home and can’t afford any sports programs right now. Soon, that will change and I’m going to remember to be more social and friendly when I’m actually in those situations. I want to get back in touch with old friends and stay in touch. I like having lots of different friends with different interests.

Okay so I just started school the other day. That’s my main source of finding new friends.

Psychology – I’ve got a bunch of aquaintences in that class, and I know since we all sit in a group, we’ll be able to get to know eachother more and become good friends.

English – Okay, so I used to have this close friend, but we haven’t really talked in 2 years, and now she’s in my class. We sit beside eachother but it’s akward because we haven’t seen eachother for so long. That’s the problem. I have to find a way to make it less akward so we can become good friends agian.

Cooking – I know no one in that class, since most of them are grade 12s. But since we have a lot of group work, I’m sure we’ll be able to get to know eachother and become friends.

Fashion – All my close friends are in that class. But there are a lot of new people there too, which I’m hoping to become closer to.

This is definitely done. My social calendar is packed and I have a good group of friends in a close vicinity. Finally.

Well last year for my birthday I had 6 close friends which turned out to be a super day.

This year for my birthday I had 21 people come, I think that would class as expanding my social circle. I am good friends with all of them old and new.

Met two people last night (at rock concert/club) I hadn’t seen in a while – after a reconciliation had taken part btw. two people, everyone is happy about seeing each other again: “Will this mean that you can once again come to my barbecue evenings?” I once again experienced that annoying, confusing mixture of shyness and laziness. Does she really want to see ME, or did she just do a line and is not in her right mind? And I, do I care about anything and anyone else than my degree (and long library hours), my boyfriend, my family and my best friend? But yes, I like those people. Take a chance. I will give her my email address… If she’s not exactly my kind of person, maybe one of her friends is.

OK, I think I’ve achieved this. It’s funny how one can achieve a goal in different way than one thought it would go. I don’t now know hundreds of of more people. But I now know how to have an interesting conversation by speaking plainly and with authority and listening with interest. I’m not shy of asking people’s names or introducing myself.

This did not happen all by itself. It took lots of practice and a dedication to self-acceptance and a number of uncomfortable situations.

a friend of a friend, that participated in a book club I was in, had a girls night in. She invited some friends I didn’t know and I had a blast. I really think that a couple of the girls were really nice. One is a transplant like myself. She is from NO,LA…she is learning her way. I might try to get in touch with her to see if she wants to do some other things on occasion. She said she tries to find things to do in the area, and since we are both kind of newbies I think it our personalities could work.

‘cause this community of farmers’ sons and dentists’ daughters bores me to death!

I met some pretty cool people during my new job training! Two of them are going to the same office as me, so I’m looking forward to hanging out with them once we get to Seattle. My company is turning out to be a lot cooler than I thought it would be. :)

I think I am making progress with this goal. I could do with more of my social circle being outside of work, but I can’t say there’s been no progress.