Look for something to like about everyone

I have adopted it as a life time goal.

To be ourselves we need other people.

There is in all visible things… a hidden wholeness.

Some people love all other human beings.I feel i cant do that.May be my love has different meaning.But i do want to discover something to like in every one.

We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.

Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family: Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.

Factors determining sexual attraction of women
A youthful appearance is the primary factor governing the attractiveness of a woman. This has given rise to a host of neotenic characteristics in fertile females:

Lower height than a mature male
Reduction in body hair
High-pitched voice
Rounded facial features
Lighter-skinned on average than men (Rebato et al., 1999)
Among cultural features that seem to reflect the preference for neotenic female partners in Western societies are depilatory practices dating back to antiquity, and the popularity of blonde hair.

A strong aspect to sexual attraction is proportion, and more specifically, a .70 waist to hip size ratio, a preference that is constant across race and nationality. It is typical for a plastic surgeon to correct an error of proportion, such as making a nose that is too big smaller via rhinoplasty, or making breasts larger via breast implants.

One idea of physical beauty regarding the breasts of women is that the best shape approaches the shape of a three dimensional parabola (which is called a Paraboloid of revolution) as opposed to a hyperbola, or a sphere. Conversely, the shape of the buttocks of an attractive person (male or female) tends to resemble the shape of a cardioid, which is the inverse transform of a parabola.

The appearance of health also plays a part in physical attraction. Often, women with long hair appear more beautiful as the ability to grow long healthy looking hair is an indication of continuous health of the individual growing it. Another indication of health of an individual is the ability to grow long, strong, fingernails. Therefore, artificial nails and manicures have become widely popular in late 20th century with women.

Weight seems at first sight to be a physical factor in attractiveness of both genders (typically women), but there is some debate that this is actually a function of social desirability. In some cultures, both historically and in the present day, a fat woman is or was seen as sexually attractive. However, this cannot be solely because fat deposits provide the energy needed for developing a healthy fetus, as in other cultures, women so thin as to stand a high risk of miscarriage are considered attractive. Rather, weight is a visible indicator of social status and wealth; in some societies, only the rich can afford to be fat, while in others, only the rich can afford liposuction and personal trainers. Therefore weight is at least partially an indicator of social status, which is itself sexually desirable to many.

Factors determining sexual attraction of men
Sexual attraction for man by a woman is determined largely by the height of the man. For the woman, the man should be at least a few inches taller than her in order to be perceived as handsome. It would be preferable if the man is at least a little above the average in height in the given population of males. This implies that women look for signs of social dominance and power as factors that determine male beauty. Women are attracted to men who display possession of resources and wealth, shows influence in social group, and display a promise or prospect of upward social mobility.

Males demonstrate attractiveness by, sometimes, demonstrating their levels of the hormone testosterone by growing larger and well-defined muscles through exercise.

At various times in history and throughout various cultures and sub-cultures the growth, maintenance and display of facial or body hair produced as a by-product of testosterone activity within male bodies has been considered a primary characteristic of sexual attractiveness, and of a display of masculinity in general. Cultural development seems to oscillate through multi-generational cycles from one pole to another: extreme hair growth, especially of facial hair accompanied by elaborate grooming rituals is often followed within a couple of generations by a widespread antipathy to body hair and the widespread adoption of depilatory practices.

The causal mechanism for this oscillation has not been established but differences in the simultaneous characterisation of body hair attractiveness within a culture between different social classes may indicate that the dynamic force driving the diffusion of differing male body hair social practices is in fact mate selection by females. Sociological and genetic studies in developed nations have indicated that in general females tend to mate with males of a slightly higher socioeconomic status. Therefore there are several loci of female attraction to male body hair “chasing” each other through society in a roughly vertical direction. Thus particular male attitudes to their body and facial hair within a social stratum are generated largely by the attitudes extant within women of a slightly lower socioeconomic status.

Personality and sexual attractiveness
.....there is no requirement for great physical beauty for a person to be sexually attractive, and personality and good manners can come to the fore. In many cases, people with good personality can be strikingly sexually attractive, even if they are superficially sexually unattractive in appearance. The personality characteristics of a dominant male may override any other logical or superficial flaws.
(From Wikepedia)

the sexy elenments in a person.I had never thought or used this word sexy in this sense.I googled for a meaning of this word.The result was:http://www.reference.com/browse/wiki/Sexual_attraction

I am convinced that there is so much to like in every one.

What i am looking for in a person?I think , in the final analysis , i am looking for certain qualities or values which are my ideals.Since i don’t find all these in a single person . i focus on the quality/value which the other person has, and like that person for that .