stop thinking too much

I have so many random thoughts racing thru my head, it’s hard to keep up. I am alwas telling myself that I am wasting my life living where I am, because I don’t want to bring my 2 children up here, but I feel stuck, and it’s true, we wouldn’t be able to move at the minute, so that makes me angry with myself, and leaves me thinking about it still. I think about what a crappy job I’ve got at Blockbuster, renting dvd’s out to rude, obnoxious people, but then if I looked for a better job it would mean putting my youngest in childcare, which I have already tried and it broke my heart because she hated it so much. Which is why I’m back at Blockbuster. I think I’m wasting my life being stressed and stuff, when I should be grateful for everything I’ve got. My two daughters are the most beautiful things in the world, and I have a lovely partner, but I seem to spend my time thinking about how I could make things better for us all. And then that leaves me feeling useless again.
My youngest child will be at school in a couple of years, so I should just be patient about things, and I suppose that’s my problem. I find it hard to live in the here and now, and am always looking for the next thing to do.

This is probably my biggest problem right now. Currently I waste hours thinking about the past, the future, other problems and irrelevant things that either don’t exist or aren’t important. It’s ironic because often I think about starting something and the steps to doing it, but I end up wasting the time thinking about it instead of actual doing it. As a result, nothing gets done. This causes most of my other problems because a lack of time causes panic which causes more thinking and the cycle continues; worsening as tasks pile up.

I’ve thought this problem over for a long time and I’ve come to the conclusion that time is just an illusion. The key is to always be in the present and aware of yourself and the world, not your thoughts. By staying focused on what you’re doing and not thinking about what you might do in the future (and probably won’t get around to doing), you will accomplish more and be happier since you can achieve your goals. Plus you will not waste energy on thinking and instead you will spend it on the task, producing better results.

Obviously that’s all easier said than done, but by recording this goal along with my other goals, I hope to reduce the burden of thought and remind myself the goals I want to achieve.

Since this is such a difficult problem, I’ve developed a more complex plan for success. This involves restrictions, getting rid of temptations that encourage negative though and setting aside time to just relax without thinking. Fortunately I’m an aspiring artist, so I plan to set aside at least an hour or more a day just to draw from life. This will improve my observational skills and give me time to let go of my thoughts. In a way it is like meditation. I plan to start small with one hour and work my way up to more until I am no longer burdened by my thoughts.

Of course this is not just an issue of thinking, but wasting time, temptations, procrastination, prioritizing as well as a wide range of issues, mostly mental issues. However I believe thinking is the root of the problem and when I clear my mind I will be able to fix those other problems (and vice versa).

GOAL: 2 years (November 13, 2011)

As long as I remember I’ve been thinking too much. Makes me doubt on any decision I have to make. When I’m sure and someone brings out something else then it makes me question my decision and the circle starts all over again. I never saw it as a problem but now I do. I question about life, love and everything in general. Things that there’s no answer I keep tormenting myself to find one. It affects my love life as I always question my partner’s behaviors and actions and after spending all my time thinking I question my own feelings. I guess it doesn’t allow me to just be free and live the present moment. I will focus on anything that bothers me (even small things) and make it bigger and over analyze anything and everything. Got me wondering if I’m crazy and what’s wrong with me. Got me googleing the net for solutions and questioning myself and evrtyhing about me. It’s an never-ending cycle. Sometimes, I literally have to yell at myself and say “stop it, what good am I doing to me” and after I feel better until I restart. I feel like I don’t let myself to feel and question “how do I feel” and “how am I supposed to feel”. I feel like I don’t even know what I want, who I am, what do I enjoy and I have to keep looking and questioning. Basically, I am never sure !

I decided to consult. As I need to live my life fully and be more confident and stop over-analyzing and worrying (what if this, what if that). I need to understand that there’s no solution to everything and that nothing is or will ever be perfect.

I hope that it will work. All i know is that the first step is to aknowledge that we have a problem and to find ways to get better.

Maybe it’s just a problem of self-confidence, maybe it’s just simple. Well, I’ve been over-analyzing what it could be for too long and now taking actions.

Going tonight for my first consult. I’ll keep you guys posted on my road to let myself be free.

i keep all day thinking, but the problem is not that. the problem is that my thoughts are negative, so that affects my everyday life, making me feel unhappy about everything. Usually, my thoughts are about things i can not have, things i can not reach.. it’s like a voluntary torture, because just like i read in one of the posts here “my mind belongs to me and i am the one who has the power to control it”. but why can’t i just stop over thinking what hurts me?? I need also some help here.. :$ I imagine myself being successful, having a successful career, a nice, well-paid job.. but guess what i do nothing to get all that. That’s one of the things i hate the most about me. I will not get anything if i do not work hard. I am studying to be a web designer.. I’m about to finish that career soon, but i just do not feel like doing anything and keep thinking of a bright future i will never get if i do nothing for myself… it’s like being “stuck in a cyclone of thought” just like that. And it’s always been like that. I’m 25 years old and i dont want to go on like this for the rest of my life… :(

I’m 13 and I feel like I’ve been blessed with a curse. My mind is very creative and I’m smart but it also never shuts off. I analyze every situation and think about things way too much. I always go back and forth between certain thoughts and viewpoints and it seems like I’m always contradicting myself. I’m not even sure what I genuinely feel and what’s just bullshit.

I over think everything and its making me have silly thoughts in my realtionship, makes me unhappy and down, help!!

This song describes me sooo much!!! I have a hard time making a decision! I’m so awkward! I think silly things through like how I’m going to get out of the bleachers to receive an award, or how to get into someone’s car, because like I said I’m very awkward! I always worry that I will go with someone or a group to a restaurant and I won’t know what to order, or won’t like anything on the menu! I can’t decide anything when I’m pressured or in a split second! AAAAAAHHH!!!

I feel all the above is very useful advice and I’d like to add a link of my own. Kabat-Zinn is the first human to get meditation into medicine and is very knowledgeable in living in the moment. Here is a youtube video one hour long on a workshop he gave to US student. very helpful. http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=3nwwKbM_vJc

I want to stop thinking too much. I think I over analyze thing or take things to heart too many times and I replay it again and again and again. I want to just let go and think about nothing sometimes. I want to free myself of my mind.

I try to use alternative things to stop thinking, but it doesn’t work. I think I have ADD

I am a student in UK and having inventive thougth in creating new and impective thoughts and ideas for life…..in UK and all over the world.As I said that I think too much so the problem with me is that I cannot afford doing and implementing my thoughts in the way I want…..then I think too much,waking up all nights that is there any option for me as I can see my future safe anyhow so is there anybody can share wid me his or her feelings of reallity….