When talking to someone I’m always scared that the conversation will go dead that when the other person is talking I will just be thinking about what I’m about to say next and I never REALLY LISTEN to what he/she is saying! I am determined to stop this and become genuinely interested in what the other person is saying. People really are interesting to listen to because you really learn so much about them!
How to become a better listener
How I did it: I just focused and stopped trying to over analyze. I figured out that if I tried to avoid the drama I could more clearly perceive the world around me and help others. And it helped me to see who my real friends were. I realized quickly that those who gossip to you, which I now could actually hear, would gossip about you. Though I did get hurt from a few back stabbings I did change my life’s perspective. I also stopped annoying myself and I think I became easier to relate to because I was no longer anticipating telling my story but I actually was able to enjoy other peoples tales and use them to show my actual loyalty and to strengthen trust and friendships. I could actually see them being more comfortable around me because I would listen and let the conversation go in a direction that they could correspond with. Overall a very good exercise.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
Lessons & tips: Stop anticipating telling your story. Think about how what you heard fits into your social spectrum. Listen.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
Resources: Having a loyal person who I could vent to who wouldn't go around telling others.
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i am going to start trying to do this from this day. I believe that it will work!!
This will probably be a life-long goal – but each year I am becoming aware that my friends have important things to talk about, too!
sweetface221 is feeling blessed and at peace
I have to listen to my head and heart, and become a better listener of those two things. My head may say one thing but my heart, that is the organ that I often listen to.
sweetface221 is feeling blessed and at peace
I had to remind myself yesterday to be a better listener, especially when the other person that was talking to me, I really wanted to interrupt them and say SHUT UP YOU ARE LYING!!! but I maintained this goal of becoming a better listener. Reminding myself, just listen, be patient and allow this person continue to speak and wait for your opportunity to voice your opinion.
sweetface221 is feeling blessed and at peace
Pay attention to what the other person is saying!!!! Ask questions when I am confused or its way over my head, dont feel like a question is a dumb one. you are a good listener, with positive and motivating thought.
sweetface221 is feeling blessed and at peace
Oh gosh, I have got to become a better listener, and stop pulling apart things in conversations that I want to hear, and listen to the entire conversation. (No I don’t have ADD). Stop wishing the person would move the story, gossip, lecture, speech along and get to the good stuff.
to get objective advice to become better at active listening…
http://www.ehow.com/how_3836_be-better-listener.html
rennpike is proud of herself for not waivering
I would love to listen better because I sometimes have so much going on in my own head about my own problems and just general life stuff that when it comes to hearing about my friends lives I zone out and not even notice. I remember some stuff but the same can also be said for when I am in a seminar or at work. I need to focus more on the task at hand and turn off the ego in my head.



