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become a better listener


 

How to become a better listener by alaskanmossy

"Opened my eyes."

How I did it: I just focused and stopped trying to over analyze. I figured out that if I tried to avoid the drama I could more clearly perceive the world around me and help others. And it helped me to see who my real friends were. I realized quickly that those who gossip to you, which I now could actually hear, would gossip about you. Though I did get hurt from a few back stabbings I did change my life’s perspective. I also stopped annoying myself and I think I became easier to relate to because I was no longer anticipating telling my story but I actually was able to enjoy other peoples tales and use them to show my actual loyalty and to strengthen trust and friendships. I could actually see them being more comfortable around me because I would listen and let the conversation go in a direction that they could correspond with. Overall a very good exercise.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />  

Lessons & tips: Stop anticipating telling your story. Think about how what you heard fits into your social spectrum. Listen.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

Resources: Having a loyal person who I could vent to who wouldn't go around telling others.


 

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    Lily192089

    Untitled 1 month ago

    When talking to someone I’m always scared that the conversation will go dead that when the other person is talking I will just be thinking about what I’m about to say next and I never REALLY LISTEN to what he/she is saying! I am determined to stop this and become genuinely interested in what the other person is saying. People really are interesting to listen to because you really learn so much about them!

    Sep 26, 01:17PM PDT | 1 cheer | 1 comment


    Gudgirl

    Gonna start!! 4 months ago

    i am going to start trying to do this from this day. I believe that it will work!!

    Jun 26, 08:11PM PDT | 0 comments


    dasmadrigal

    I'll be honest 4 months ago

    This will probably be a life-long goal – but each year I am becoming aware that my friends have important things to talk about, too!

    Jun 22, 01:22AM PDT | 0 comments


    sweetface221 is feeling blessed and at peace

    Heart Reflections 8 months ago

    I have to listen to my head and heart, and become a better listener of those two things. My head may say one thing but my heart, that is the organ that I often listen to.

    Mar 09, 11:42AM PDT | 0 comments


    sweetface221 is feeling blessed and at peace

    Reminder everyday 8 months ago

    I had to remind myself yesterday to be a better listener, especially when the other person that was talking to me, I really wanted to interrupt them and say SHUT UP YOU ARE LYING!!! but I maintained this goal of becoming a better listener. Reminding myself, just listen, be patient and allow this person continue to speak and wait for your opportunity to voice your opinion.

    Mar 08, 10:56AM PDT | 0 comments


    sweetface221 is feeling blessed and at peace

    Pay attention 8 months ago

    Pay attention to what the other person is saying!!!! Ask questions when I am confused or its way over my head, dont feel like a question is a dumb one. you are a good listener, with positive and motivating thought.

    Mar 06, 02:53PM PST | 0 comments


    sweetface221 is feeling blessed and at peace

    Listen, don't just hear 8 months ago

    Oh gosh, I have got to become a better listener, and stop pulling apart things in conversations that I want to hear, and listen to the entire conversation. (No I don’t have ADD). Stop wishing the person would move the story, gossip, lecture, speech along and get to the good stuff.

    Mar 05, 01:37PM PST | 0 comments


    BrifrmBlackwater

    Things I need to go through 8 months ago

    to get objective advice to become better at active listening…

    http://www.ehow.com/how_3836_be-better-listener.html

    http://topten.org/public/BN/BN12.html

    http://www.bspcn.com/2007/11/10/hear-this-10-ways-to-become-a-better-listener-and-change-your-life-forever/

    Mar 02, 09:31AM PST | 1 cheer | 0 comments


    rennpike is proud of herself for not waivering

    Listen better 10 months ago

    I would love to listen better because I sometimes have so much going on in my own head about my own problems and just general life stuff that when it comes to hearing about my friends lives I zone out and not even notice. I remember some stuff but the same can also be said for when I am in a seminar or at work. I need to focus more on the task at hand and turn off the ego in my head.

    Jan 04, 2009, 04:44PM PST | 0 comments


    abatchik

    Untitled 14 months ago

    i feel like i talk more than i listen, sometimes.

    Aug 30, 2008, 06:49PM PDT | 0 comments


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