help people understand in marriage each partner gives 100% not 50%

i have good news and bad news. the good news is there is a 100% cure for your OCD, ADD, manic-depressive and social anxiety disorder… the bad news is it only treats 50% of the symptoms 50% of the time…

is like effectively packing a parachute, putting it on correctly, jumping out of the plane perfectly but not pulling the rip cord. 50% was completed; a 100% would have made the jump better. are you not ‘pulling the rip cord’ in your marriage? or are you not packing the parachute safely? either way at 50% only, something is bound to fail. (and the fall is a doozy)

notice these frogs have the right idea and are parachuting at 100% effectiveness:

~image taken from here ~

relationships don’t equate mathematically like many people assume. people say ‘but as long as each person gives 50% in a marriage it equals 100’. nope. doesn’t equate because a marriage is a team. on a team if each player gave only 50 of his/her abilities to the team effort, that team would invariably lose to the teams whose members were each giving their all.

to illustrate: if a player on a basketball team only gave 50% he would catch the ball maybe dribble it down the court and then stand in place not attempting to make a shot when he/she might have had a clear opportunity to. but hey, he/she gave 50% right? if a player on a baseball team decided to just make bat contact with the ball because at least he was hitting it how often do you think that player would make an effective hit? but hey, that player was giving 50% to the team! go team, eh?

yeah i could illustrate the analogy with many other metaphors but i think people get the idea. at least i hope they do.

maybe i will throw a silly analogy up every once in awhile just to keep this goal fresh.

imagine a recipe a chef only gave 50% to…