How I did it: Since I started this goal, we have actually had 2 "another babies". My 2nd daughter is my snuggle bunny; my son is 15 months old and still developing a personality; while my 1st daughter reminds me most of myself. Read how I did it… 4 weeks ago
- A is more self-sufficient, and sleeps through the night
- I have health insurance…actual, decent health insurance
- R and I occasionally squeeze in some alone time
- We’re very close to being not-poor
I want to wait until I’m not going under each pay period, and also kick my coffee jones. But I assume I have a 10-month waiting period before my insurance will pay for maternity care, (I still don’t have my card or plan info, 2 weeks after my coverage kicked in) so I have some leeway here. We’re going to start trying next year. And maybe, just maybe, it won’t be so frickin’ hard this time around. 1 month ago
This is a bit of a longer term goal. My daughter is now 18 months and I think we’d like to space our children four years apart. I know that some prefer to have that gap much closer but I can’t imagine caring for a toddler AND a newborn. Ideally, my little one will be potty trained, able to dress herself with minimal help, and feed herself (with some help as needed). Also, she needs to be able to sleep through the night (my daughter has never been one of those mythical babies that sleeps 8-10 hours at night, sigh.). Another major factor is childcare – we simply can’t afford to young children in daycare, so I’d like my first one to be in kindergarten by the time the second rolls into town! However, I’m super excited to have a second and can’t wait to expand our family. I’ve always wanted two children and I hope that despite the age difference they will feel close (particularly as adults). 3 months ago
This was so much more important to me when I had a small baby faced with being an only child, now I have a beautiul child and the desire to take back some of my life, get my body in shape, do more volunteering, spend quality time with my son- he’s going to start dance classes, start dance classes myself. Maybe once I am in a relationship or whatever I’ll revisit this goal, but right now I’m deadly serious about making my life about the people in it. Me and my (not so) baby. 3 months ago
I don’t know if I even want another baby now….
As my amazing son gets older and he becomes more independent, I find I can gain a little bit of my life back at a time. He now happily had sleep overs at his grandparents house, so I can go out/volunteer/work my 2nd job. If I have another one, I lose all that. I’m a single parent, so it is tougher than if I was part of a couple, maybe with the right person all that would change. Maybe I could have my cake and eat it?
Further to this, one of my friends recently had a baby, watching her go thru the trials of establishing BFing reminded he how hellish that is. As part of that I went through my son’s old clothes to give to the new mum, they’re on a tight budget and babies are expensive and I have stuff I’m not using…simple maths. BUT I expected as I sorted through tiny clothes and littel things I would feel some kind of twinge, a little clucky from somehwere….nope, nup, zip, nada….so strange… 4 months ago
Pregnant with number to. Nice to be pregnant but the feeling of carrying round a big baby is wearing thin. Not long now tho.;) 4 months ago
With baby #2! 5 months ago
... for ages.
As it turns out I found out one week ago that I am pregnant!
I have a daughter so don’t really mind if it’s a girl or a boy, though wouldn’t mind another girl. Either way I am sure I will fall totally in love with him or her.
Well it’s early days and I still may have to face Hyperemesis Gravidarum (severe morning sickness) but have some ammunition in place with the help of my doctor. Baby is due mid June 2013. So now to concentrate on a healthy pregnancy and telling my baby girl she is going to be a big sister! 6 months ago
I’m 22 weeks Pregnant with my second. Only took 5 months so very grateful. 8 months ago