stop worrying about what other people think

it seems like everywhere i go i always have people giving me dirty faces….it makes me feel worthless and weird and like a no body. sometimes if i bring it up my friends just tell me how im wrong…i hate feeling like people are always talking bad about me…...how can i stop feeling this way?!

i’m not totally un-paranoid about what other people think of me yet, but I am getting there. I’ve improved so much about this in the last 3 years because of the friends i have now and hopefully soon ill be able to change this to “I’m done”

Who cares what other people think about what you do in your life? We shouldn’t do things out of fear for what people will think of us. We should do them because they make us happy or they are fun. I want the self – confidence to dance in the middle of a parking lot to music blaring from my car. I’m a far ways from there, but I plan on getting there by constantly reminding myself that mine and GOD’s opinion are the only one’s that really matter.

And it’s a bit of a relief

i want to do this, but ponder if it is a realistic goal. i hope so.

I gave up caring or worrying what others thought of me in my early 30’s and never looked back. But, even as a child my mother always said that I ‘marched to the beat of a different drummer.’ I’ve always liked that and have tried to emulate that in the choices I make in my life. No; I am not some weirdo or some town character that everyone points and laughs at; I am a responsible citizen of this world who shows compassion and understanding to others when needed. I truly hope that others think I am a good person; a caring soul. But, does my self-esteem and how I feel about myself rely on other’s opinion of me?

NO WAY!!!!

I am done with this one….spent too much time worrying about it before getting here. I feel free now.

paranoia rears it’s ugly head.
I just have to remember to recognize it as mere paranoia… or at the very least, negative thought patterns. It’s important to try to stay positive.

This is so deeply embedded in me that at every moment, I have to struggle to not fear disappointing others. But, I have to say its coming along.

I have to come up with new at-that-moment counter-statements for my fearful thinking. I think the logic went like this:

1. If I disappoint people, I will be abandoned
2. If I am abandoned, I will not get the stimulation I need or the basic protection and material resources I need (I will be left to die)
2b. If I do not get the stimulation I need, I will die

Whoo! Sounds crazy eh? But that’s what it sounds like in my head so far.

doesn’t everyone? bar the few selfish/narcissistic people in the world.