be more outgoing

Lately I’ve improved, but today was like a total set back. I feel as though i’m too immature. and that’s why I can’t seem to connect with people. It was also a setback because I avoided (once again) giving a presentation. gahhh

I’ve definitely improved, whenever I’m enjoying meeting and talking to people. I’ve been acting more like myself.

Really really want to do this, Ive been quite shy for ages and I really dont want to be anymore but I guess that easier said than done. I want to put myself out there and take opportunities and not be unconfident and self conscious and hold back. Going to give this a good go and hopefully it’l be better :) if anyone has any advice for me to help be more outgoing I’d really appreciate it.

I’ve had some trouble opening myself up to people I’m not friends with (accquaintances with)... but it’s not that daunting… as long as you talk to people who aren’t the overly negative, antisocial type, they’ll be happy to talk.

I’ve started off small… ...ask people questions, try not to focus on yourself (although if the conversation goes to you, stay brief and then go back to a question)... even just having polite pleasantries so far with people is really self-affirming. So take baby steps and… yeah…

...these videos helped:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_G4VSczizuA
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mpWxIplRVRQ

I talked to someone in my Spanish class yesterday.

He sat at the desk next to me (sounds so high school. Thanks, community college) and I very nearly got up and moved to the back of the room. But I stuck with it and we talked a bit, and it actually made the class fun.

I hope you don’t think I sound nuts, fellow goal-havers, but just sitting there is a pretty big accomplishment for me these days. Talking is even more than I thought I’d be able to do.

I’m tired of hearing people constantly telling me to get out of my shell. It’s not that i enjoy being a hermit or anything, it’s just that i like my comfort zone. i’ve always been the quiet, mellow type and my personality pretty much affects the way i interact with other people. i admit it gets more than a little awkward being the only quiet person among a group of fluttering social butterflies. Other people tend to get a little uncomfortable around me bcoz of the awkward silence. It’s just that I’m reslly, really bad at making small talk. Even saying hi, or how are you feels like climbing mt everest. I’m just socially awkward and i know i should do something to change this.

i need to be more friendly… talk to new people easier. Whats the worst that could happen? really…

Here’s the way I’m looking at this:

For now, I want to consciously do this at times. Even if it is literally in a ragged little burst once a week, I want to train myself not to hide for everything. I’m starting to see too much rush past me.

God, I live like I drive. Merging is scary.

somehow my goals seem to be tied to each other.
being outgoing has to do with believing in myself and being confident and living without fear.
seriously what am i waiting for?

Seems like i missed my chance to learn the little social skills that i need to develop relationships. If that is not the case then there is seriously something wrong with me. I haven’t told anyone about my problem. Would it help?