I am committed to this marriage, but am very unhappy. I’ve got my own problems that I bring to the table, and no one is unilaterally to blame. Neither of us drinks or does drugs, but we each have our dark sides. In my case, it’s spending money. In his, it’s workaholism. You can see how the two are symbiotic, no?
I am not in incredible debt, but I could be more disciplined about what I spend on my son (I buy him toys far too frequently). At the same time, my husband works all day, and 4 nights a week, and when school starts, he’ll be doing homework on the other 3. I work full-time, and care for my son alone in the evenings. Lots of times, it’s hard to keep him happy without taking him out, and that leads to spending money. We live in a small apartment and he’s 5 and gets cooped up.
I know my husband loves our son, but I’m not sure that he loves me. I’m not sure I love him, but I’ve been reading that it’s better to work on trying to recapture the marriage than leave. So, what do I do to get more time with my husband, for me AND most importantly, for our son?