file my taxes

I calmed down, and lo, the flood waters have receeded.

I found my ex-dh’s phone number, which was not really lost but just not quite in the place where I expected. I called him, and got my questions answered very cordially. Now I can move forward to the next step.

I’m so good at making mountains out of molehills. Embarrassingly good at it. Sigh.

Today, I decided to call my tax advisor and talk to him before I spent more time looking for other missing tax papers. I guess that’s a little progress on this goal, since I’d been procrastinating on calling him. I’m glad I called today, even though he recommended that I talk to my ex-dh and ask him a few questions before we go any further.

Now, filing of taxes had been a sore subject between me and my ex-dh for years and years of our long marriage. I just saw him a couple of weeks ago and we settled an older tax matter. I really do not look forward to further contact with him over tax matters, because I anticipate and fear a negative and uncooperative response from him. Then I went to find his address and phone number which he gave me, and I couldn’t locate it. I became restless, irritable and discontent with myself, as my INNER CRITIC swung into action.

After pacing around for awhile, I self-diagnosed my problem as “flooding.” John Gottman writes about this in his books on marriage and relationships. I understand that it can be triggered by any stressful situation where someone feels criticized and judged. It is related to the so-called “fight or flight response,” the response our bodies make when we feel we are under attack.

And I believe that at least part of the solution is to practice “self-soothing,” which Gottman describes as taking a break and practicing deep-breathing and relaxation and visualization exercises. I think I’m going to need lots of practice on self-soothing as I attempt to complete this challenge goal.

I also just now found some additional tips on calming down, and it’s calmed me down just to review them and to write this entry.

Note to self: Breathe in. Breathe out. Repeat.

Found most of W-2s and bank docs for 2008. Next step is to reconcile medical bills. I’ll start doing it tomorrow.

I filed an extension basically because I was too lazy to go through all the organized piles of paperwork on my floor.

will finish the state tomorrow.
browser issues.

and worked on return. Will look over to make sure everything is in order. Last year I made a mistake and shorted myself $200. I’m still trying to get that $$$ back but IRS is hard to connect with.

If all is good with this return I will file this week. The refund will be a nice chunk of change. I can really put a dent in my debt!!! :)

dang computer will not let me get onto turbotax.com
I wanted to get them started today but can’t cuz of a “java script” error. I’m clueless as to how to fix it. PC is great when it works…think it may be a ISP issue cuz the dial up is so slow. Will start this tomorrow @ work.

I use turbotax for this. Beats having to pay the accountant for something I can do myself. Although I still need to get a partial refund from my 2007 return but I can’t seem to get in touch with the IRS. Show me the money $$$$$ IRS!

This will be the first time doing this. I have no idea where to begin, I have my W-2. Where do I go from here..?

There are about 3 years that I should have. They owed me money, but not much at all. Mostly I’ve worked without pay for my dad’s family business, which is legal. I’ll need to file this coming year though, as I am now a nurse and am receiving regular paychecks. Can’t WAIT to do that…but it’ll be an accomplishment