stop second-guessing myself

To stop second guessing yourself you have to believe in yourself. In one of my favorite books “Bud Not Buddy” the main character said before he does anything big he doesn’t hesitate he just says “Gernomo!” I’m going to try to start doing this.

I have been doing this lately and I didn’t even realize it. I just knew that I wasn’t feeling so happy with myself and just wanted to stay in, not socialize with friends and just be by myself. I felt toxic.

I don’t know where this second guessing came from because lately I had been doing so well – working out, watching what I ate, writing regularly, staying in touch with friends, being open to different experiences and working on strengthening my inner self.

I decided that it was very important that I keep the promises I made to myself. I wasn’t always successful, but most times I was and when I wasn’t, I acknowledged it and tried to learn what I was capable of. But this past week and a half, I have let all that go and just feel lost and weak. I guess the second guessing is a symptom of feeling that way. I think for me, taking care of myself is a circle and if I neglect one thing, eventually everything else goes out of whack until my system crumbles.

So I’ll try again, once more to pick myself up and build up my self-esteem and love of life.

In the words of Dr. Spock

“Trust yourself, You know more than you think you do.”

Constantly reminding myself of this.

A life spent questioning every decision you make is hardly a life enjoyed.

It’s all about willpower, plain and simple. Every time you begin to worry about a decision you made, you need to stop, tell yourself that what’s done is done, and move on. Start with little things like “was this the right way to dress today?” or “Is the restaurant I choose going to please everyone?” and work your way up from there.

Yes, occasionally you will make a mistake. Yes, from time to time you will offend someone. It’s inevitable, it’s part of life. Better to go through life enjoying it then to constantly worry about whether you made the right decision or not.

“The surest way of spoiling a pleasure is to start examining your satisfaction.” – C.S. Lewis

this is almost the same as learning to trust my gut. Any decision that I make, I immediately second guess. I go through numbers of options until they all seem equally good and I am lost in my own indecision.

I don’t think i was ever in denial but I know reliese that i don’t need to think i’m wrong and i would rather just be more confident the first time, and i personaly think i am acheiving this.

Never trust second thoughts. Next thing you know there’ll be a third and a fourth…you’ll be thinking forever.

-Richard, Ally McBeal

recent events have brought to light the fact that I pretty much second guess everything i do.

I have done this….
its a hard habit to break… but
it goes with feeling better about yourself..
once you have acheived that…you wont have
to second guess anymore !

to tell the truth, after i typed in ‘stop second-guessing myself’ as a goal, i changed it to remove the hyphen, then changed it again to ‘stop doubting myself’, and was mulling over another rephrasing before i realized my own ridiculousness and put it back the way i first wrote it.

clearly, i need some work on this.